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Saturday, May 30, 2009
Captivation v. CaptureOK, I mentioned this briefly in my post the other day, but some recent events (this weekend) have caused me to really
look deeper into it. As I mentioned before a friend refers to me as a 'player' but in jest. I think. Not sure. Wait, well,
no, I think she means it. And I kinda think she's right. For a very long time I have placed a mental expiration
date on the men who enter my life. I almost immediately know how long I'll be able to tolerate them. None exceed two years.
And if they get all charming and stay beyond their expiration, they really do become like spoiled milk. Like I know it's there,
it's been there for quite some time, but I just haven't made the effort to dispose of it properly. Oh, and disposing of expired
milk is rather tricky for me by the way. I don't want to open it and pour it down the sink as I might have to smell it and
get ill. However, I don't want to toss it in with the other trash, unopened, and leave it in the scorching hot hallway for
the hariss to collect several hours later. The idea of coming home to a rancid smelling hallway is not the least bit appealing
to me. I suppose I could always toss it in the trash, tie the bag, and take it down myself. Eh, who am I kidding? Never gonna
happen. Yeah, so men are about as difficult to dispose of as the expired milk. Unless of course they dispose of
us first. For some reason I think we're about as easy to dispose of as a smoked cigarette. Poof! She's gone. But only for
a short time. Inevitably, when we're over the "WTF?" mode, and have quietly and happily moved on to something new
and more exciting with a different expiration date, spoiled milk calls out of the blue. "Hi. Miss me?" It's at this
point I want to say, "Miss you? Um, who are you?" Which would be an accurate statement since I will delete someone
from my phone much faster than I can dispose of the milk. So simple to me -- and almost liberating at some point. Not to mention,
if I didn't delete them, I would have to come up with entirely too many nicknames, and I'm not that clever. For instance,
because I know a dozen Mohammed's, they all get a name --  Mohammed Lexus, Mohammed Eagle, Mohammed hi baby, Mohammed from the base, Mohammed 'his' brother, etc. They get saved in (and
deleted from) my phone this way as well. It's all a bit stressful from time to time, and then I go on the 'man diet' where
I completely refuse to even glance in the direction of the male species out of fear we're going to be playing the silly staring
game at 120km for 30 minutes. Thursday night I made this mistake. I was at a red light on Arabian Gulf, waiting to make a
U-Turn (approximately 11pm). In the opposite direction was the big white Tahoe which is currently the "I'm a hot man"
vehicle for Kuwaiti men to drive. I'm a woman, give me a break, I looked. He looked. We looked. I make the U-Turn, he's slowing
down waiting for me to catch up -- but I pass and ignore him. Yeah, this is the game part. Ignore them -- sometimes they ignore
you back, but more than likely their pathetic little ego is shattered and they must proceed in momentary stalker behavior.
So, hot guy in Tahoe follows -- I continue my route home. I pull into the parking lot of my building since my current vehicle
is far too large for me to even attempt to park in the garage (imagine 20 floor tower collapsing -- yeah, that's me driving).
Tahoe boy (now saved as Ahmed Tahoe) pulls up behind me, looks, waits, and sits for a moment. I didn't get out of the car
as I figured he would approach in a moment and I admit -- I was curious. Something about the large SUVs -- call me shallow.
Blah blah blah, here he comes to the window. Perfect eyes, perfect lips, masha'Allah, gorgeous. He was hather, not bedu which
is off my beaten path, but worth the game playing for. Now we do the cutesy text messages for a few days, the nightly phone
calls which last for hours, and then what? Well, we know what. This is the point I feel they've been captured. I am no longer
interested. The charm, the flattery, the funny jokes, and westernized personality is all a facade -- we know this well. However,
I take a sense of pleasure in manipulating it out of them for a period of time. Chances they're ever getting what they want
out of this are rather slim. So it's like we practice -- they get better at playing the game, and I get better at being a
player. Will I ever grow up? Not as long as cosmetic surgery is available. This weekend was really crazy for some
reason. Much more traffic than usual, many more phone calls than normal, and waaaay too many plans to even try to be available
for. I had 4 things scheduled for Thursday afternoon/evening, I managed to do one and a half. Rarely do I obligate myself
to anything because I understand my inability to show up anywhere on time -- or at all. I am a last minute person and
this drives some of my closer friends insane. It's not that I'm holding out in case something better comes along, it's that
I might actually decide to sleep on the weekend. There are times when I couldn't be happier than just sitting at my window,
overlooking the sea, and listening to Jazz music -- watching the insanity outside. Other times I enjoy being in the middle
of it. Speaking of insanity -- accidents! Oh my. The number of accidents this weekend was just outrageous. I mean,
I know you all got your salary and some crazy little voice inside your head screams "Spend it all today!" but did
you have to drive like maniacs while doing it? Oh how I love Kuwait. And the captivation of it all.
30 may 09 @ 2:04 pm amst
Ethics In America we're raised with a sense of ethical value, the difference between right and wrong. Well, in most cases.
Of course there's good and bad everywhere, in every country, every race, and religion. But generally speaking, we try to make
ethical decisions on a day to day basis.
Here in Kuwait it sometimes seems like just the opposite. Everything
is a 'deal', or a 'game', or some kind of action which requires unethical behavior -- though only referred to as 'the life
here.' I struggle with this. How can this really be 'the life' in any country? Among any people? Does this mean the life in
Kuwait has strong undertones of wrong and bad at all times? I don't believe this for a moment -- perhaps because I love Kuwait
so much I am in denial.
Recently I've met some new people who are absolutely wonderful. A bit different than my
regular crowd of Kuwaiti friends, from 'the other side' so to speak. The are citizens, but in addition to their Kuwaiti salary
they also have civilian jobs within the community. The are kind, compassionate, and respectful to others. Not that my other
friends aren't -- just these friends don't have so much of that entitlement syndrome going on, though they're equally as spoiled
as the others. The women are very genuine, kind, and generous. You feel at home in their home, and they ensure this is the
case. There's no snobbish behavior, no rude insecurities -- just genuine kindness and respect. I absolutely love them. The
men from the same family, though not directly related, are a different story. They too are kind, generous, sweet, and compassionate,
but it's not as genuine as the women. The words are there, but the actions don't follow. I am a firm believer that men have
one thing -- their word. If they speak, we should listen, and it should mean something. Men deserve the greatest respect,
but only if their word is of value. Otherwise, they're just unethical.
This leads me to wonder why women aren't
more powerful in this country -- other than obvious reasons. But with the recent elections, and many women getting voted in,
I am truly looking forward to the future of Kuwait. I believe with all my heart women could run circles around the men in
this country -- simply because they're ethical. Men are just entitled, and in turn, appreciate nothing.
As soon
as Kuwait decides it needs a Princess -- I'll have a new career!
30 may 09 @ 11:53 am amst
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Other people's children... Let me start by saying I love children. Especially my own. But children are the most pure, honest, absorbant little
people on earth. So natural, so real. Though I won't disclose the age of my own children here, as that will give a pretty
good indication of my own -- I will say that forever they will be my 'babies.' They know this, and I'm certain as much as
the idea makes them cringe, it also makes them the happiest little men in the world. A sense of security comes from family
that we don't get elsewhere. I will say this -- I have two sons, and have often wondered what it would have been like to raise
a little girl. Something tells me she would be just like me, so it's probably a gift from God to all that I never had a daughter.
When my youngest son was about 6, we were driving down the road discussing random things, and I mentioned something
about little girls and how though I would have loved a daughter, my sons made me the happiest mother around. So he pauses
for a moment, and then asks if I had always wondered what it would have been like to have a little girl. I wondered why my
6 year old son was so interested in my comment, so I said, "Well, no, of course not, but I wonder what the difference
is between raising girls and boys." He paused, thought for a moment, and then said, "Mommy, if you ever thought
about having a daughter, why did you pick two boys? Why not just choose one to be a girl?" To this day I remind him of
how absolutely precious he is -- at the time I explained our inability to choose the gender of our babies upon impregnation.
You know how to go out and you see these kicking, screaming, rotten bratty kids? And you find yourself wondering
why the parents don't control this nonsensical behavior? OK, that was me. I wasn't the harshest disciplinarian, and would
only sometimes rectify this type of behavior. I know, I know, it was horrible. I know this now more than ever -- living in
Kuwait, wow. The epitome of rotten kids. Children with no discipline, manners, or common respect. Not all of course, but they
certainly have their share. I find myself thinking, "Wow, I wonder if I was hated this much when I took my kids in public?"
Yes, I am certain I was.
Good news -- my children are incredibly well behaved, well mannered, polite, respectful
men today.
28 may 09 @ 9:32 am amst
Monday, May 25, 2009
Shopping I'm a woman, need I really say more? We all have hobbies, interests, and things we do to pass time. Some
play sports, some watch television, some knit, etc. I shop. Not a very good hobby to have, however, I am very good at my hobby.
I don't just run to the store and purchase the first thing I see that I want. Otherwise, there would be no room for me in
my home. I would be pushed out by 'stuff.' While shopping I research, know what I want, and always (seriously...
always) get the best price. I have become the master of negotiations here in Kuwait. If they're not caving to the price I
want -- I have no problem being without the item. I think it's more the challenge than the actual ownership. I'm this way with men too. Challenge over ownership. Captivating him is always far more fun than capturing him. Wouldn't
you agree? I can be charming and cute, while remaining elusive for quite a period of time. But as soon as that 'game' is over,
and we're  settling into a more serious status -- I'm out. I have recently been told I am a 'player' in a joking manner. Though I am
starting to think they're kinda right. Not that I set out to play games, toy with emotions, or cause harm to anyone. This
is absolutely not my nature. But again, the coy captivation is far more intriguing than the comfortable shoes. Every girl
needs a pair of Jimmy Choos on the side just for fun. Sexy, hot, and only good for those special events. Back
to shopping... I was out with a friend last night -- we ventured into Jahra where I love to buy my perfumes, lotions,
and oils... which I did. Walked through the mall for a few minutes and came across this great little jewelry shoppe filled
with handmade items in all Swarovski crystals. I could feel the gravitational pull as I tried to pass it. It was too late
-- I was entering. Now, I have purchased a pair of absolutely gorgeous earrings -- huge, gaudy, tacky, and waaaay over the
top. But I love them. No idea where I'm going to wear them, but I'm definitely going to find a place. They're having a 'coming
out' party this weekend. Three days off -- I'm certain these earrings and I can find something to do. And look quite good
doing it. I love shopping.
25 may 09 @ 4:46 pm amst
Sunday, May 24, 2009
Pre or Post? No idea what I'm blogging about today, so this could get scary. I just felt the urge to write.
On my way
to work this morning, listening to an amazing Branford Marsalis CD (Metamorphosen), relaxing, pretending the heat
index wasn't already hot as hell, and enjoying the fact that people were actually driving like they had a little
sense -- there he was. Wait, let me stop right there. There he always is. When I leave the house, go to the store, go out
to eat, or just drive to work -- there he is. Who is 'he' you ask? He's the bronze skin, huge dark brown eyed, black hair,
gorgeous Middle Eastern man. I am fortunate to live in a country of about a million (the rest of Kuwait's occupants being
from different lands). Rarely do I bother myself with stopping, chit chatting, or engaging them in any way. It's generally
in a woman's best interest to ignore the gawking gorgeous men and go on about her daily business. Sometimes I have a weak
moment -- turn on the bluetooth, pull over at the next gas station (though I am Full), change lanes before the stop light
for a better view, etc. Actually stopping and having a conversation with the man is pretty much never going to happen. A woman
who stops on the side of the road to communicate with a man is already labled... and it's not pretty. However, these men will
often watch closely, predicting where the woman is going to go (like if she's driving in the direction of the supermarket,
or Starbucks, or something else rather obvious). He'll park, he'll wait, he'll be like an animal stalking his prey. And he's
good at it. It's at this point he can slip in a 'hello'. If he's really good he gets all the way to 'take my number?' Most
of these creatures are named Abdullah, Mohammed, or Ahmed. Not sure if this is their real name, or they assume they'll use
something easy enough for the American girl to pronounce. Fact is -- their name isn't important at all. Since chances of me
ever contacting him is slim to none. But it doesn't take away the effort he put into it all, the big brown eyes, and the lips.
These camel looking men are sometimes the highlight of a slow day.
Moving right along...
Vacation is
approaching quickly now, and I am more than ready. I've considered having a little gathering, or perhaps a small dinner at
my place prior to leaving. But I think it would be best to do when I return -- this way someone else can plan and prepare
it. Like my 'welcome home' party? I mean, we can use my place since I have the most amazing view in all of Kuwait. And I'll
even follow all the rules of hosting. I just want to be the center of attention. If I hold this little event prior to leaving
it's more of a 'get everyone together' type of deal. Waiting till I get back ensures it's all about me... and, well, my ego
likes that. So yeah, late June, my place. No gifts required, just lots of attention.
Homosexuality in Kuwait...
wow. Of course I knew it existed here -- it exists everywhere in the world. But here, with the segregation of men and women
in many arenas, it seems so much more prevalent. Men chatting with men on the internet... let's stop here for a moment. A
man signs onto the internet (a fairly typical place to meet a woman in Kuwait), and another man begins to send him messages.
At this point does he say, "Um, I'm male, why are you contacting me?" No, no, no. He doesn't say that at all. As
a matter of fact, they chat, find common interests, and make arrangements to meet (not necessarily for sexual purposes). So
in a country where men are everywhere, can stop and talk to one another at any point during the day, they opt for an internet
connection? Huh? OK, so they do the online chatting thing, and then make the meeting plans. Coffee? Sheesha? Dinner? Perhaps
their apartment? OK, that could lead one to think many things. I have stories, but I'll never betray their trust. And if you're
reading this (ya know who you are)... oooh, I wanna tell! :) Now, they've chatted, met, talked, hung out, and established
a sense of compatibility. However, it doesn't take this much time to establish homosexuality. Generally the first meeting
is set up for this purpose, and they make it clear by outright asking if one will do... well 'things' to the other. Or, when
they meet one will sit closer to the other, perhaps trying to touch, make eye contact, or send the message in other ways.
Isn't that a lot of drama?! That's more work than picking up a woman... or not. But all that effort just to see if you can
get someone of the same sex to partake in sex acts with you is just waaaaaay too much trouble.
I have a great
idea -- forget the women you chat on the phone with for a year and see twice. Forget the chasing of women down the street
like animals. Forget the man meet (meat?) online. And stick to the women who adore you all for what you are, who you are,
and are even allowed to leave the house on a regular basis. See how easy that is?!
Who am I kidding?
Nothing is ever easy in Kuwait.
24 may 09 @ 12:39 pm amst
Saturday, May 23, 2009
What's it really all about? Lately there have been a few changes taking place around me. Because I generally control most of what happens in my
day to day life, changes can be fun, and sometimes a little scary. As long as no one is getting hurt, I think it's all ok.
In the past few weeks I have discovered how much I really like me. Not just me as a person -- but hanging out with
me. Being with me. And doing things... just for me. The thought of having another person attached to me the majority of the
time is so unappealing. I remember when I was younger marriage and relationships always seemed rather important. Like there
was a goal in mind when we would meet someone new. Now, well, I still have a goal, but it's not long term so to speak. The
goals are so much more simple now -- fun, friends, peace, and happy. All of that combined equals no drama. Ahhh, that's how
I like it. The drama free life.
That being said -- today is spa day. I have started increasing the number of days
in a week I go to the salon just because I love the feeling of hands on me. Don't care what they're doing -- but I likey.
I've been doing the weekly hair treatments, though I have great hair anyway. But now it seems more healthy and youthful. I
also do the monthly microdermabrasion which is always just fantastic. And now I'm incorporating massages. How often, and what
type is yet to be determined. It's just the point. Maybe once a week, maybe five times. Who really knows? Maybe as little
or as often as I decide on a whim. That's what life is really all about. Living it.
On a different note -- hather
boys have given me something to think about. Odd, huh? I've always leaned in the direction of bedwin (bedu), desert, crazy.
Now I'm checking out a few other things. Haven't really stopped to make a purchase or anything, just test driving for now.
So far, so good. Kinda interesting. Totally new and different, but definitely not in a bad way. Exterior is slightly different,
and the interior is definitely more modern and upgraded, and appears to have few downfalls. I'll have to review the full warranty
offered and get back to you all on this hather v. bedwin thing.
23 may 09 @ 4:17 pm amst
Monday, May 18, 2009
Go Kuwait!!KUWAIT: Four Kuwaiti women wrote their names in the history books yesterday by becoming the first females to win seats in
the National Assembly almost 47 years after its inception and exactly four years after Kuwaiti women were enfranchised. Maasouma
Al-Mubarak, Aseel Al-Awadhi, Rula Dashti and Salwa Al-Jassar achieved spectacular victories even beyond the expectations of
most optimists, with Mubarak and Awadhi coming in first and second places in their respective electoral districts. Dashti
came in sevent h position and Jassar in 10th.
All the women are US-educated academics and hold doctorate degrees
in political science, political philosophy, economics and education. Three of them are professors at Kwuait University while
Dashti was the first ever woman to become the head of the Kuwait Economic Society. Jassar is also the head of Kuwait Society
for the Empowerment of Women. Thekra Al-Rasheedi, a lawyer by profession, despite not winning, also made history by winning
6,600 votes in an entirely tribal district where all the major tribes held their tribal primaries.
In a cable
of congratulations to the four women, HH the Amir Sheikh Sabah Al-Ahmad Al-Sabah said he was "very delighted at the great
results achieved by Kuwaiti women and their deserved success in the elections." His crown prince also sent a similar
cable. "This is the will of change of the Kuwaiti people," Mubarak said. "We hope the results will lead to
political stability and help achieve the desired cooperation between parliament and government." Her supporters celebrated
with fireworks and drove her ho me in a motorcade of honking cars like Kuwaitis normally do after weddings. The 62-year-old
political science teacher, who once complained that she could not vote while her male students could, scored the most votes
in her district.
People voted for change because people are fed up with deadlocks. It is time to focus on our priorities
inside the parliament," Aseel Al-Awadhi said after her win. Besides this major surprise, the elections also had three
other important developments: Sunni Islamist groups were crushed, Shiites almost doubled their strength and main opposition
figures including the so-called "crises MPs" were re-elected. The Islamic Salaf Alliance (ISA) was reduced from
four seats in the previous Assembly to just two, one of them Ali Al-Omair barely making it to the Assembly in 10th and
last position.
The Islamic Constitutional Movement (ICM), the political wing of the Muslim Brotherhood, was left
with only one seat, down from three in the previous Assembly and as many as six in the 2006 house. Sunni Islamists and their
tribal allies now only have 11 seats, down from 21 in the outgoing Assembly.
Shiites boosted their strength considerably
from five in the past Assembly to as many as nine with five Islamists. They won seven out of the 10 seats in the first district,
besides one each in the second and third districts. But the Shiite National Islamic Alliance (NIA) won just one seat, down
from two. The liberals and their allies improved by just one seat to eight, with Mohammad Al-Abduljader exiting and Abdulrahman
Al-Anjari winning. Three of the women MPs are also liberals.
The Popular Action Bloc maintained its strength of
three seats with Ahmad Al-Saadoun and Musallam Al-Barrak winning re-election and newcomer Khaled Al-Tahous replacing Marzouk
Al-Hubaini, who lost in the tribal primaries. The Bloc could add another member in Mubarak Al-Waalan. Tribal members improved
just one seat to 25 while the main tribes maintained their strength. Awazem won six, Mutairi five, Rasheedi four, Ajmans and
Enezi three each, Oteibi two and one each for Hajeri and Dossari.
Main losers included former MPs Abdulwahed Al-Awadhi,
Mohammad Al-Kandari and Ahmad Lari in the first district and Abdullatif Al-Ameeri and Abduljader in the second. Ahmad Al-Mulaifi
and Abdul Aziz Al-Shayeji lost in the third. Twelve former MPs did not bid for re-election in the fourth and fifth districts
either on health grounds or for losing in the tribal primaries.
Other than the four women, major new winners included
Yussef Al-Zalzalah and Faisal Al-Duwaisan in the first, Abdulrahman Al-Anjari and Adnan Al-Mutawa in the second, Naji Al-Abdulhadi
in the third, Mubarak Al-Khrainej and Mubarak Al-Waalan in the fourth, and Falah Al-Sawwagh, Khaled Al-Tahous, Dulaihi Al-Hajeri
and Badi Al-Dossari in the fifth.
Three of the five Islamist MPs who filed three requests to grill the prime minister
have been re-elected. They are Mohammad Hayef, Faisal Al-Muslim and Jamaan Al-Harbash. Of the other two, Nasser Al-Sane did
not contest while Abdulaziz Al-Shayeji lost. Moreover, two candidates who were detained for criticizing the ruling family
and threatening to resist the security forces, have also been elected.
In all, there are 21 new faces in the Assembly,
three each in the first three districts, four in the fourth and eight in the fifth. In the last elections, 22 MPs were changed.
"This is a historic election... but the so-called deadlock MPs are also back and we hope they change course," said
Ali Al-Baghli, a former oil minister. "We need to have a government that is able to lead and move forward with reforms...
I think there is a possibility that we will see a similar crisis," said political analyst Shafiq G habra. "The
question is which way will the government move?
In the light of the results, political analyst Nasser Al-Abdali
believes the composition of the next government will be decisive in shaping relations with the new parliament. Under law,
a new Cabinet must be named before elected MPs hold their first formal session after two weeks. "If the composition of
the new government does not change fundamentally, crises will return in a big way," said Abdali, head of the Kuwait Society
for Development of Democracy. He said that almost all members in the outgoing parl iament whom the government blamed
for causing crises have been re-elected which "sets the stage for more confrontations.
This is a message that
the Kuwaiti society has started to move away from such movements that are based on hatred," said political commentator
Sami Al-Nisf. Many voters also said they were tired of years of political upheaval sparked by parliament's frequent attacks
on Cabinet members, which often lead to attempts to impeach ministers. Al-Nisf said the win by female candidates was an achievement
to be proud of not only in Kuwait but around the region. "They made it without organized political parties supp orting
them or a quota system. This is a huge leap forward for Kuwait's democracy," he said.
Al-Nisf said the roughly
40 percent turnover in the election, which produced 21 new faces in parliament, was a sign that voters were tired of the confrontational
style of some lawmakers. "There is a signal from voters that grillings have lost their glitter," said Al-Nisf. The
poor results for fundamentalist Muslims, he said, represented a rejection of their efforts to push for social restrictions.
They have succeeded in banning coeducation at universities and clamping down on public entertainment.
18 may 09 @ 10:24 am amst
Sunday, May 17, 2009
Kuwaitis Vote For Stability - Kuwait TimesKUWAIT: Kuwaiti voters cast their ballots yesterday for the second time in a year with the hope that the outcome will
achieve the desired political stability that has remained elusive for the past three years. Turnout was reported to be very
low with under 60 percent overall and less than 50 percent among women, compared to around 65 percent turnout in last year's
elections. A total of 210 candidates contested the polls for the 50-seat National Assembly, the third house to
be elected since June 2006. Sixteen women are among the candidates, down on the 27 females who stood in each of the past two
elections. Many analysts predict that women are likely to win their first seats in this elections after two failed attempts. Prime Minister Sheikh Nasser Mohammad Al-Ahmad Al-Sabah and the interior and information ministers toured several
polling centers. T  he premier called on Kuwaitis to vote to bring the country back on development track. The interior ministry said that the
election passed off peacefully without any incident. But veteran former MP Ahmad Al-Saadoun charged that some influential
people were interfering in the elections. He also said that certain quarters were bringing crowds outside polling centers
in a bid to influence the outcome. Later at night, Saadoun launched a protest because counting of votes began at the main
center in the third district while voters were still casting votes at other centers. A majority of candidates and
local official and private TV stations made impassioned appeals to voters to go to the polls after initial indications showed
a very low turnout. The election kicked off to a slow start, impacted by soaring temperatures which hit more than 40 degrees
Celsius. But it picked up in the evening and hundreds of voters continued to cast their ballots even after the centers closed.
Under Kuwaiti law, all voters who are present inside the polling stations are allowed to vote even after the close of
elections. Local volunteers from Kuwait Transparency Society were allowed into some of the 94 polling stations
to monitor the ballot. "We have not recorded any violations so far," said one monitor, Samar Al-Abduljader. Later,
head of the society Salah Al-Ghazali charged that a majority of the monitors were not allowed into polling centers by the
higher election commission. Women voters said they were frustrated at the non-stop bickering that has paralyzed
politics. "It's frustrating and saddening to see political crises paralyze the country for years. It is very unfortunate
that marginal issues have dominated development," Nuha Al-Awadhi said. Artist Farida Al-Baqsami said that if this election
does not solve disputes "then we really do not want this parliament again. Both said they had voted for women
and were confident that at least two will be elected while leading liberal candidate Rula Dashti said she expects that up
to four women will enter parliament. "The future of Kuwait is at stake," said Dashti. "We've had our ups and
downs. ... I think we learned from the downs and we're ready to move ahead," she said. Political analyst Ayed Al-Mannah
said if Kuwaitis vote for the best qualified candidates rather than members of their sect or tribe, "we'll have a more
reaso nable parliament that is willing to work with the executive branch. Local pollsters expected a small
change of not more than 40 percent of the faces of the outgoing Assembly, and some of them predicted that at least three women
will win, especially liberal candidate Aseel Al-Awadhi. Controversial candidate Mohammad Al-Juwaihel was reported to have
been beaten up by a group of voters in the third district in protest at some of his controversial statements. But he later
denied the report as baseless rumors. Counting of votes began about one hour after the close and early results
were expected in the early hours of today. Political groupings have fielded around 20 candidates and are backing 15 others.
The new Assembly must hold its first session two weeks from declaring the results and before that the new Cabinet must be
formed. The deadlock will continue because the champions who caused the deadlock last time will come back,"
said Abu Khalid, a voter in his 60s, while waiting his turn to cast his vote. Um Ahmad, a female voter, echoed those fears:
"I know it will be worse than the last parliament." "God willing there will be a change in the next assembly,
and women will make it. I voted for women because they were convincing in their campaigns," Refaat Abul Hassan, a female
voter in her 50s said after casting her vote. "People d on't want to vote, everyone is rejecting the deadlock and
want change," said Etab Khalaf, a voter in her 40s. Analysts expect Islamists to lose some ground in the polls,
which could boost liberal candidates and women's chances of winning a seat, but that may not be enough to end the deadlock.
"Islamists could lose some seats but it won't be enough to change the general mood in parliament," political analyst
Shafiq Al-Ghabra said. "The ball will be in the government's court again to move forward with development. Although
its political system resembles Western democracy more closely than that of any other nation in the Gulf Arab region, Kuwait
has fallen behind its neighbors who have transformed themselves into commercial, financial and tourist centers that attract
foreign investors. By contrast, parliament has blocked many of Kuwait's major projects and the state was forced to rescue
a bank last year. Deputies accuse the government of corruption and oppose trimming back the huge welfare state.
They have insisted on using their rights to demand ministers appear before parliament for public scrutiny. The government,
dominated by the ruling Al Sabah family, balks at allowing ministers to be questioned. The government resigned in March to
avoid Prime Minister Sheikh Nasser Al-Mohammad Al-Sabah, a nephew of the ruler, having to appear before parliamentarians for
questioning. This prompted HH the Amir to diss olve parliament and call new polls in an effort to end the stalemate. Kuwaiti politics both repels and inspires fellow Gulf Arabs. In no other Gulf state is the ruling dynasty's power
as diluted by popular political participation as it is in Kuwait. Yet other Gulf rulers look askance at the system while some
voters say the rowdy parliament sets a bad example, holding back development they see implemented by decree around the Gulf.
"We want reforms, we want the new MPs to act as they speak," said Wafaa Sadeq, a voter in her 40s. Voters
like retired civil servant Ibrahim Al-Attar are grumbling that the government clashes have hurt the economy, while the quality
of public healthcare and other services deteriorates. He voted for four female candidates, saying, "Men don't have credibility
anymore. We're fed up with crises." (Material from agencies used in this report)
17 may 09 @ 3:24 pm amst
Fair election in Kuwait? Could it be?Based on the article below, and the opinion of some of my friends -- we've actually witnessed a fair and ethical election
in Kuwait. I would venture to say, if this is the case, it's perhaps the first time ever. Also, should the real votes dictate
those elected, I would also venture to say there will be many political changes. Unfortunately and fortunately, these changes
may clash with the more conservative Sunni way of governing. Not that there's anything wrong with conservative and strict,
especially in an Islamic country. But when politics and religion begin to merge, they rarely mesh. I can see how great changes
could come from this election, but at the same time, great disappointments to those attempting to make the changes. | LEARNED FROM THE DOWNS … READY TO MOVE UP: DASHTI; ‘A poll apart … reclaim the pearl’
| KUWAIT CITY, May 16: Thousands of Kuwaitis on Saturday elected their second National Assembly in a year. Like
the previous elections, the elderly cast their votes early with some of them arriving before the opening of polling stations,
especially in the Second Constituency — Shamiya. Counting of the ballots started immediately after the close of
voting. At the time of going to the press, four women were doing well in their constituencies. According to unofficial polling
station results released by Kuwait TV, Dr Aseel Al-Awadhi and Dr Rola Dashti were 2nd and 6th respectively in the Third Constituency,
while Dr Maasouma Al-Mubarak was leading in the First Constituency. Dr Salwa Al-Jassar was also doing well in the Second Constituency
in 5th position. With thousands of votes still to be counted, these positions could possibly change,
according to KTV. Earlier, supporters of some candidates, including children, gathered outside the polling stations brandishing
photos of their candidates and excerpts of electoral platforms, while others offered free meals and beverages. Bottles of
water bearing the names of candidates were also distributed to voters. After casting his vote at a school in Shamiya, former
Speaker of the Parliament Jassem Al-Khorafi vehemently denied allegations that the incoming Parliament will scrap the economic
stimulus bill. He said there might be amendments on some clauses or inclusion of new clauses, but the next Parliament will
not cancel the bill. He affirmed the local economy has started perking up and Kuwait’s income is higher than its expenditures.
Asked about his expectations, Al-Khorafi asserted “there are indications of strict adherence
with the directives of HH the Amir Sheikh Sabah Al-Ahmed Al-Sabah for the voters to choose the best candidates, which will
have a positive impact on the performance of the incoming National Assembly.” Hoping the country will soon move towards
the right direction, especially in strengthening relations between the government and Parliament, Al-Khorafi said both authorities
are two sides of the same coin, hence, the need for strong coordination to protect the welfare of Kuwait and its people. He
believes the next Parliament will address a number of issues, work hard on winning back the trust of people, take wise decisions,
and lay down a concrete development plan. He urged the next government to be strong and study laws thoroughly to avoid unnecessary
conflicts. Meanwhile, HH the Prime Minister Sheikh Nasser Mohammad Al-Ahmad Al-Sabah, while visiting
the electoral committees, said “Kuwait is currently witnessing free and honest elections.” Sheikh Nasser reminded
people about Kuwait’s unique democracy. He congratulated the citizens for participating in this historic event to bring
about change. He asked the people to unite in building and protecting the nation to regain its status as ‘pearl of the
Gulf’. In a related development, some polling stations in the Fifth Constituency were crowded during the early
hours as voters arrived in throngs amidst the heavy presence of securitymen who were on hand to maintain peace and order.
Al-Ahmadi Governor Sheikh Ibrahim Al-Duaij confirmed in a press release that the concerned institutions, particularly
the Ministry of Interior (MoI), were fully prepared for the elections. General Commander at the Fifth Constituency
Major General Mosaed Al-Ghonaim revealed female police officers are assisting for the first time to ensure the safety of voters
and prevent any untoward incident during the voting process. “A total of 30 policewomen with the rank of corporal and
sergeant have been deployed to polling stations allocated for female voters in various constituencies. These officers are
working in coordination with 480 female volunteers,” he added. Falah Al-Sawagh, a candidate from the same
Constituency, is said to have engaged in a fight with securitymen at Abdullah Al-Ahmed High School in Jaber Al-Ali District
when he refused to follow the security officers’ instruction to take a different route while exiting the polling station. Several candidates also cast their votes early including First Constituency Dr Hassan Jowhar who stressed “this is
the chance for electors to greatly contribute in ending the political standoff between the two authorities and propel our
country towards development.” Dr Youssef Al-Zalzalah, also a candidate in the same Constituency, asserted
the long queue of voters in some polling stations is a strong proof that people still trust the voting process, contrary to
allegations on the low voter-turnout this year. He also believes women will finally succeed in their attempt to enter the
Parliament. Another candidate from the same Constituency, Adnan AbdulSamad, hopes the next Parliament will be more
progressive than its predecessors, which were marred by controversies and had short-lived tenures. Commenting on the
extreme statements uttered by some candidates during the campaign period, AbdulSamad said “pointless statements are
common in any electoral race as candidates try to outdo each other in winning the hearts of voters.” Third
Constituency candidate Aisha Al-Reshaid reportedly had an argument with the female supporters of former Islamist MP and candidate
in the same Constituency Dr Ali Al-Omair, who were trying to discourage female voters from supporting female candidates on
the pretext that Islam prohibits such acts. Commenting on the electors’ participation, Rola Dashti visited
a number of polling stations and noticed differences in the flow of electors. She hopes more electors will cast their votes
later in favor of candidates with a commitment to effect change and achieve national development. Sunni Islamists, a
major force in the outgoing Parliament, are expected to lose ground and women are seen as winning their first seats. The
ballot to elect 50 MPs was called after HH the Amir Sheikh Sabah Al-Ahmad Al-Sabah dissolved the 10-month-old Parliament in
March, triggering the third election since May 2006. A total of 210 hopefuls are standing for Parliament for a four-year
term, but analysts see little hope that the political deadlock will end, whatever the outcome. Veteran opposition figure
and former MP Ahmad Al-Saadoun alleged that influential people were interfering in the election, but stressed that “despite
this, the future will be better.” Local volunteers from Kuwait Transparency Society were allowed into some of the
94 polling stations to monitor the ballot. “We have not recorded any violations so far,” one monitor, Samar Al-Abduljader,
told AFP. Later, head of the society Salah Al-Ghazali charged that a majority of the monitors were not allowed into polling
centres by the higher election commission. Women voters said they were frustrated at the non-stop bickering that has
paralysed politics. “It’s frustrating and saddening to see political crises paralyse the country for years.
It is very unfortunate that marginal issues have dominated development,” Nuha Al-Awadhi told AFP. Artist Farida
Al-Baqsami said that if this election does not solve disputes “then we really do not want this Parliament again.” Both said they had voted for women and were confident that at least two will be elected while leading liberal candidate
Rola Dashti said she expects that up to four women will enter Parliament. Voters like retired civil servant Ibrahim Al-Attar
are grumbling that the government clashes have hurt the economy, while the quality of public health care and other services
deteriorates. He voted for four female candidates, saying, “Men don’t have credibility anymore. We’re
fed up with crises.” “The future of Kuwait is at stake,” said Rola Dashti, one of 16 female candidates.
The 50-seat legislature has never had a female member, though women were given the right to run for office in 2005. “We’ve
had our ups and downs. ... I think we learned from the downs and we’re ready to move ahead,” she said. Political
analyst Ayed Al-Mannah said if Kuwaitis vote for the best qualified candidates rather than members of their sect or tribe,
“we’ll have a more reasonable Parliament that is willing to work with the executive branch.” Kuwait
has no officially recognized political parties, and its Cabinets — always chosen by the ruling family and headed by
one of its members — do not need to the legislature’s approval. The new assembly will have to vote on a $5
billion economic stimulus package seen as crucial to helping the financial sector of the country overcome the global financial
crisis. The measures were approved in March by the caretaker cabinet. The measures must also be approved by the
new Assembly. There are no political parties in Kuwait, the world’s fourth largest oil exporter, but conservative
Islamists and tribal figures who have opposed government economic plans and pressed ministers over accountability are expected
to dominate again, even if they do lose some votes amid growing public frustration. “The deadlock will continue
because the champions who caused the deadlock last time will come back,” said Abu Khalid, a voter in his 60s, while
waiting his turn to cast his vote. Um Ahmad, a female voter, echoed those fears: “I know it will be worse than
the last Parliament.” “God willing there will be a change in the next Assembly, and women will make it. I
voted for women because they were convincing in their campaigns,” Refaat Abul Hassan, a female voter in her 50s said
after casting her vote. “People don’t want to vote, everyone is rejecting the deadlock and want change,”
said Etab Khalaf, a voter in her 40s. Analysts expect Islamists to lose some ground in the polls, which could boost liberal
candidates and women’s chances of winning a seat, but that may not be enough to end the deadlock. “Islamists could
lose some seats but it won’t be enough to change the general mood in Parliament,” political analyst Shafiq Al-Ghabra
said. “The ball will be in the government’s court again to move forward with development.” Although its
political system resembles Western democracy more closely than that of any other nation in the Gulf Arab region, Kuwait has
fallen behind its neighbours who have transformed themselves into commercial, financial and tourist centres that attract foreign
investors. By contrast, Parliament has blocked many of Kuwait’s major projects and the state was forced to rescue a
bank last year. Deputies accuse the government of corruption and oppose trimming back the huge welfare
state. They have insisted on using their rights to demand ministers appear before Parliament for public scrutiny. The government,
dominated by the ruling Al Sabah family, baulks at allowing ministers to be questioned. The government resigned in March to
avoid Prime Minister Sheikh Nasser Al-Mohammad Al-Sabah, a nephew of the ruler, having to appear before parliamentarians for
questioning. This prompted the ruler to dissolve Parliament and call new polls in an effort to end the stalemate, as Kuwait’s
rulers have done repeatedly in the 45-year history of the elected assembly. Kuwaiti politics both repels and inspires fellow
Gulf Arabs. In no other Gulf state is the ruling dynasty’s power as diluted by popular political participation as it
is in Kuwait. Yet other Gulf rulers look askance at the system while some voters say the rowdy Parliament
sets a bad example, holding back development they see implemented by decree around the Gulf. “We want reforms, we want
the new MPs to act as they speak,” said Wafaa Sadeq, a voter in her 40s. Minister of Information, Justice Minister and
Minister of Awqaf and Islamic Affairs Sheikh Sabah Al-Khalid Al-Sabah reiterated on Saturday that the Information Ministry
was keenly following all broadcast of satellite channels and print media and would refer all violators to the legal bodies
concerned. Speaking to KUNA while touring a polling station at Anas bin Malik Secondary School in Khaitan, of the Third Constituency,
prior to the closing of the polling stations, the minister said that Kuwait has been keen to make this democratic festival
a success. He added that the Cabinet of ministers has formed a committee of various state ministries
to simplify vote cast procedures, in addition to various audio and visual media bodies tasked with broadcasting this even
for viewers inside and outside Kuwait. He praised efforts of the various Kuwaiti media bodies in transmitting this event with
clarity for all viewers and listeners wishing all the best. The minister also spoke about the large number of Arab and foreign
news correspondents who came to Kuwait to cover this event, stressing the ministry’s keenness to make their coverage
easy. Technological development and the communication revolution, as well as information made available on the internet and
satellite channels, are sending mixed messages to voters and often mislead them. Academicians told KUNA
that surveys that forecast results based on polls — by phone or through online votes — negatively affected voters
and did not properly reflect the situation in the Constituency. Mass communication professor at Kuwait University, Dr Ahmad
Al-Sharif, told KUNA that these surveys were often not sufficiently studied and were not credible, adding that they could
“trick” voters into thinking that certain candidates had better chances than others. However, Dr Yousef Al-Failkawi
said that internet polls could have a positive impact should they be based on solid information and reached through correct
scientific methodology. He warned of websites that appeared to be legitimate, but where polls were actually doctored to promote
one candidate over another. Meanwhile, a manager of one of the websites told KUNA that internet
websites played the role of mediator between candidates and voters, and were means to promote media campaigns. Residents of
New Jahra, of the fourth Constituency, welcomed His Highness the Prime Minister Sheikh Nasser Al-Mohammad Al-Sabah on Saturday
with cheers. Sheikh Nasser was touring the polling stations in the area with Interior Minster Lt Gen Sheikh Jaber Al-Khalid
Al-Sabah (ret.) and Minister of Information, Minister of Justice, and Minister of Awqaf and Islamic Affairs Sheikh Sabah Al-Khalid
Al-Sabah. Children sang national songs as His Highness Sheikh Nasser entered one of the polling stations, while the Interior
Minister was keen to shake hands with a number of policewomen, who were taking part in securing the polling process for the
first time in Kuwait’s history.
Outside the gates of schools, female supporters of campaigners
— wearing badges bearing the photos and slogans of their candidates — were up and about from the early hours of
the morning, and their children were also on location to help out. They distributed water, soft drinks and snacks to voters.
The scene inside the schools was much calmer, where security personnel imposed order and voters cooperated with heads of electoral
committees. Male campaigners, however, were more serious and stern, and order was in place while encouraging voters to cast
their ballots as early as possible. |
17 may 09 @ 2:53 pm amst
Yay Kuwaiti Police!In the past seeing the Kuwaiti Police pull anyone over was perhaps the most rare sight in Kuwait. Sure, they were out,
patrolling the streets, setting up check points, and responding to calls. But making actual traffic stops was very
rare. In the past few weeks it seems all of this has changed. Not sure if it has something to do with the current
elections taking place, or if this is something permanent Kuwait has implemented. Either way -- I like it! No, I don't take pleasure in watching people be  given tickets and made to pay expensive fines. However, it is refreshing to see people be held accountable for their actions
-- regardless of nationality. Of course I have no idea what action is being taken when a Kuwaiti Police Officer accidentally
pulls over the brother of his mother's cousin and the kissing commences. Something tells me there's not a lot of ticket writing
going on. But the fact the traffic stop was made sends a strong message here in Kuwait. In America we see a cop,
slow down, make sure our seat-belts are on, grab the Blue-tooth, and hope he didn't see us scrambling to be legal. In Kuwait we see a cop, hope he's going at the same rate of speed as us or faster, flash lights to get him to move out of
the way if he's driving too slow, continue our conversation with cell phone pressed to our ear, and fly by the cop at a high
rate of speed.  Not so much the case now. After seeing the recent increase in traffic stops I find myself slowing down when I see a
police car (they have really hot new Chargers now by the way), I make sure I'm using my Blue-tooth, and I certainly get out
of their way as fast as possible should they be behind me with their lights flashing. It's nice to have a new found respect
for the men who are supposed to protect us from those who want to harm us. I'm very impressed. Side-note:
While searching for photos of the new Kuwaiti Police Dodge Chargers, I came across the Audi Kuwait Police cars on a police
site. Kuwait already has BMW and Chargers in place, but now Audis? Are these replacing the BMWs? Or in addition to? Are they
already in place and have I missed them?
17 may 09 @ 9:43 am amst
Saturday, May 9, 2009
Summer has arrivedOver the past couple of days it has really gotten hot. We had a sandstorm on Thursday, but even with the dust blocking
the sun -- it was hot. A few sprinkles Thursday night which helped with cleaning the air a bit. I woke up Friday morning to
crisp air and blue skies. It was super hot by mid afternoon. Today isn't much better. However, comparing this year to
last it just doesn't seem quite as warm as it was. I seem to remember early May always been almost unbearable, getting
much worse June - August. This year is definitely hot but feels a bit more manageable. It's this time of year I generally
ditch the Pepsi Diet and stick with low sodium water, or iced green tea. By the time I return from the states (almost July
time-frame) I have no doubt it's just going to be miserably hot here. My family complains that it's getting into the
upper 80's back home -- I'm looking forward to the upper 80's. Rarely do I vacation to the states
this time of year due to a much higher number of travelers, more crowds, increased airfare, and totally booked flights. This
year is different -- I actually have a specific need for going home during this time of year, and was fortunate enough to
plan early. I feel as though I have planned well enough that I've actually circumvented much of the hassle summer travel
from Kuwait can bring. Unfortunately, due to the number of things we have to take care of back home -- seems my every day
is 'booked' so to speak. Not that this is a bad thing, as a lot of the plans are relaxing type things (beach, road
trips, and morning coffee with friends), but the idea I have to 'organize' my vacation is somewhat stressful. Since travel and vacations are a huge deal here in Kuwait -- like you're leaving and never coming back -- my remaining
time here before vacation is also 'booked.' Everyone wants to make plans, see you, take you out, bring you dinner,
have coffee with you, and give you a ride to the airport before you travel. This is all very lovely, but my goal is to tie
up loose ends at work. I can see everyone else when I get back... no? Apparently not. I sometimes find myself reminding my
friends of how much I actually enjoy my sleep. Oh, and my naps on my days off. Yes, I really do love to sleep and have no
intentions getting less of it anytime soon. By the way; I went to the salon again the other day after deciding
I needed my hair to appear more 'youthful' (I've discussed this here before -- healthy hair = younger looking
woman). Or it as  just me longing for the pampering I had during the previous week's session. I get the "hair evaluation" done
though I have no idea what they're really evaluating, but it felt good so I didn't ask much. She starts talking about
regrowth, thickness, length, etc. and says she can give me my youthful hair back in just three sessions. To be completely
honest -- I have incredibly thick, long, luxurious locks which require very little upkeep or maintenance. They are what they
are. However, I'm addicted to these women touching my head after that amazing hot oil treatment last week. I love it beyond
explanation. It's the most relaxing thing I have ever felt, and get completely lost in extensive head massages, hair brushing,
or just someone running their fingers through my hair. So, three sessions it is. I'm excited about it, and looking forward
to it all starting. She says, "Oh, we can start today, mada'am, with the 1st treatment." Woo hoo! No complaints
from me -- I was ready for sheer bliss and relaxation. I throw on the robe, get comfy in the chair with my feet up, ask for
my usual coffee, and then bam! I hear this sounds of electrical shock, and feel something odd and tingly on my head. She's
slowly tormenting me with electricity. Whaaaat? Where's my blissful head massage? By the time it was all said
and done I had been electrocuted, shocked, pulled, pushing, yanked, prodded, steamed, and dried. But I have to say -- my hair
looked awesome, younger, and much more healthy. I was impressed. I go back next week for session 2. No idea what that includes,
but it should be interesting.
9 may 09 @ 3:08 pm amst
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Enough with the 'swine flu' already!We've all seen it on the news, we all hear the exaggerated stories which send fear into the hearts of everyone,
and cause mass panic. Sure the H1N1 Virus aka Swine Flu is something people should be aware of, be educated on, and take precaution
against. But for every little cough and sneeze to be treated like the virus is just unacceptable. If I sneezed at work and
said, "Oh my, I think I have the swine flu" I have just sent panic and discomfort into everyone who has encountered
me in the past week or so. This is unfair, and just outright not very smart. That being said -- educate yourselves
on the number of deaths related to the H1N1 Virus as compared to the standard ol' ' flu'. Read about prior strains of the same virus, how it was contained, and where it came from. Finally, take it seriously, but let's not lose our minds. It's not
a joke, but it's also not a horror movie where people are dying the moment they come into contact with it.
Moving right along. Not sure if I blogged about this or not, but it's come back up so I figure I'll
vent again (or not if I haven't before). Several months ago I met this man through business, dreaded the meeting,
figured it was going to be lengthy and mundane, and I really hated the idea of even being there. But, once the meeting got
started he seemed charming, witty, and somewhat charismatic. After the meeting we shared a couple of stories, laughs, and
he seemed like a fairly good networking contact to have. He's very educated (MD), and presented himself professionally.
Soon after our initial meeting we got together again over dinner to discuss some additional professional opportunities
for both of us. His education, my career path, etc. Again, he seemed fairly normal, but not quite as charismatic as before.
I found it was a struggle to hold a conversation at this point, and I believe we were both a bit bored with one another. I
was under the impression the dinner was professional, yet he made it obvious it was more personal. Once dinner was over I
politely avoided calls for the next week or more. After a couple of weeks of incessant phone calls, but not stalkerish,
just persistent -- I decided to answer. Perhaps it was a bad night. Perhaps we just had the wrong idea about things. Maybe
I just completely misunderstood him, or the other way around. So I answer, he asks if I want to go a ride with him. I
had an errand to run and figured 'what the heck', so I agreed. I can't express the level of humiliation
I experienced while errand running. First, I get in his car. Lovely enough, clean, well maintained, but more along
the lines of something a child would choose. Since a car doesn't define a man, I easily got over this. He starts
the car -- holy crap! You wanna talk about insanity?!? 1994 rap music blaring in my ears! Not just loud, but literally blaring.
I love music, I even enjoy some rap music. But to have it playing at an inhumane level in my ears is just outright rude and
unprofessional. It gets better. As we're pulling out of the parking lot, he rolls down his window
and starts 'throwing' gang signs. You know -- like making silly gestures with his hands. At this point I contemplated
the "I lost an earring in the floorboard" trick, and staying down there for the duration. I was utterly humiliated
by his actions. What on earth could he be thinking? This man is in his mid 30's. He is in the company of a woman,
and has absolutely no idea how to act. I felt as though I was on a babysitting mission. By this time I've
decided the errand just wasn't that important and I make up an excuse to get back to my car -- soon. But wait, not before
he shows me the 'traction' capabilities of his car. I don't even know what traction is. I don't spin
my car in circles, or 'peel out' at a red light. Why does one need this nonsense on their car? I'm sure he must
have been saying, "Wow, I am the coolest dude alive" however, I wouldn't have heard him due to the fact I was
buckled in, holding on for dear life, and screaming at the top of my lungs. A few short months after one accident isn't
enough time to overcome all fear. So after the most disrespectful hour of my life, I determined there would be
no more accepting phone calls from 'Speedracer'. Several weeks have gone by, he did eventually stop calling,
and it seemed we had gone all the way back to the beginning... before knowing one another. Until it dawned on me that he has
personal documents of mine in his possession from our initial meeting. These are documents containing very sensitive
information regarding my financial status, full name, date of birth, and other confidential things. Obviously I wouldn't
just share this information with anyone, but remember, it was a business meeting, he presented himself as a professional,
well educated MD. Now that I've discovered the more immature, carefree side of him, I am no longer comfortable with him
having hard copies of this information. So I email, remind him he has them, and request they be given back to me. He has no
problem with this, IF he still has them. IF?! What does he mean IF? It was part of his job to collect this information knowing
the level of confidentiality that should be placed on it, and now he tells me IF??? I am livid... outraged even!
So now I struggle with alternative methods to collect my documents. Do I want to call his Manager and explain my situation
in hopes he can encourage him to find them immediately? But then what if he can't find them? I run the risk of my identity
being stolen, bank accounts being compromised, and credit cards having fraudulent activity on them. And, he probably runs
the risk of losing his job -- this is not what I want to happen either. That's it -- nothing more, nothing
less. Update: A couple of people have emailed asking why I would give this person my information.
And after reading the post it does seem a bit odd -- as if I just showed up at a meeting and started passing out bank statements.
OK, so not the case. Those wouldn't be impressive to anyone anyway. This was a business meeting for the purpose of information
gathering. I was required to provide specific information, and it was his job to collect it -- and ensure its safety.
5 may 09 @ 10:47 am amst
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Swine Flu Yeah, I admit I'm a little nervous about the Swine Flu and going home to the states in the midst of all the panic
going on. But it's not going to stop me unless some crazy travel restriction is imposed, which I don't foresee. For now Kuwait is taking numerous precautions, as well as screening individuals who arrive from countries with confirmed
cases. Of course this would include the US. This is all fine and dandy -- I am not opposed to a little caution. However,  after speaking to a woman who arrived a few days ago, it seems like a messy bunch of drama, and quite time consuming. An average
direct flight coming from the states to Kuwait has approximately 300 passengers. You can imagine how miserable passport control
can be for those not sitting in First, Business, or at least near the front of the plane. Then you have security, and baggage
claim. A rather lengthy process already. Now imagine stopping all 300 of these people to test for rise in temperature. And
-- having all 300 return for the next 7 days for 'follow-up' or face a 50KD a day fine. Right now there
are 2 direct flights a day coming from the US to Kuwait. This means an average of 600 people per day. And 600 tomorrow. Etc,
etc. Now you have all these people lined up at some point in the day, for 7 days, following up. Sounds dreadful, but it's
much better to be safe than sorry. I was watching the Today Show Thursday morning and they made a very good point
-- many more people have died from the regular flu this year than from swine flu, so why all the panic? They went on to explain
how it's a new, not quite understood, strain of the flu, which there is not yet a vaccine for. OK, fair enough I suppose.
But are they really making it out to be something it's not? What's the purpose of the widespread fear? While
at home on vacation I have two different events planned which will consist of being in a rather large group with hundreds
of other people, and my family. Obviously I have no interest in getting sick, and even less in allowing my family to. I haven't
made a decision yet as to whether or not we'll change our plans. We still have a few weeks prior to travel, and this gives
me some time to further evaluate this swine flu outbreak. Perhaps by then it will be gone as quickly as it arrived. Or not.
2 may 09 @ 11:31 am amst
Looking forward to everything!If I haven't mentioned it here before now -- let me do so immediately... I am going on vacation! I still have a
few short weeks before it's time to head to the states, but I am really looking forward to it. Oddly enough, things are
falling so into place with these plans I am almost waiting for the tragedy to strike. And I never, I mean never, think like
this. I'm a go with the flow kinda person, seek only the positive, make lemons from lemonade, etc. The only thing I would
consider a 'downfall' at this point is that I am flying United  business instead of Emirates business. The two don't even compare. But I am certainly not complaining. United's direct
flight from Kuwait lands in DC, where I have just enough time for a cup of coffee with a former colleague before making my
connecting flight. Once arriving in my home state we have family gathering plans, once in a lifetime event plans, visiting
old friends plans, short travel plans for a vacation within a vacation, and house building plans. Well, I mean, we're
not building a house during my vacation However, we are going to meet with our builder, provide our floor-plan, upgrades,
colors, etc. It's a 6 month project which should be complete by December. But very exciting. Since I have
a few weeks of work left I am trying to tie up any loose ends. I hate to leave for vacation feeling as though I've left
something behind that should have been completed prior to my departure. So I expect keeping myself busy in the office will
certainly help the time go by a little faster. Kuwait has been lovely as always. The weather is definitely warmer
now -- hot even. I think we were teetering between 110F and 115F yesterday. I managed to get over to the gym in my building,
visit the sauna, and even enjoy the breeze by the pool for a bit. Thursday I did my spa day which was supposed
to consist of the 24kt gold facial, which turned into microdermabrasion upon arrival. I love trying new things at the salon,
and Kuwait makes it rather affordable, but I suppose I am totally addicted to microderm. I couldn't stray. And I'm
glad I  didn't. Not sure if it was a 'special' weekend, or if the women have just started really going above and beyond,
but this was by far the best treatment I have ever had. I've explained before that Microderm in the states is fairly simple
-- lay down, lights on, machine kicks in, microderm begins, and ends after 1 pass over the face. Here in Kuwait it starts
with a relaxing neck and shoulder massage with aromatherapy oils, then moves into the face and head massage, then onto the
full exfoliating facial, microderm (2-4 pass minimum at no additional charge), final cleansing, and cool down, all while the
massage continues. Oh, and for about half the price of an American salon. After the Microderm I decided I was
get a hot oil treatment done on my hair. I have rather long, thick, healthy hair that sometimes feels weighed down by the
hard water and styling products. I assumed she was going to pour some hot oil on my head, massage it through the hair, wash
it out, and call it a day. I should have known better. This $18 treatment consisted of a 30 minute head massage to promote
new cells and hair growth (after the hot oil is applied), a scalp stimulation machine run through your hair several times,
15 minutes under the steamer, shampoo, condition, and blow dry. My hair and skin both feel as though I am 6 years
old again. Dewy, youthful, and healthy. I have 'the works' planned the day before I travel to the states -- since
my salon will be dearly missed while I'm gone. As usual -- Life is Good.
2 may 09 @ 10:30 am amst
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