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Monday, August 31, 2009

Playing 'catch up'


Yes, it's been a few days since I've posted, and no, I wasn't in jail. I am very well behaved during Ramadan, and refrain from all the things which are prohibited in the state of Kuwait during this month. In public.

So here goes -- rarely do I do this as it's just not that important to me, but at the request (encouragement, egging on, etc.) of a dear friend... here goes. I've mentioned it just briefly before, but I suppose he wants to be mentioned again -- my stalker. Yes, oddly enough, I do have a real life stalker. Not for a few days, or even months now... but years! This man has been stalking me since early 2003 and has yet to stop. As I've mentioned before I block his email, have changed my stateside numbers, etc. but he doesn't get discouraged. He creates new email addresses to get through to mine, or he will simply use this website as his means to contact me. When I receive a notification someone sent me a message through my site it doesn't tell me from where or whom it's coming from. I have to actually take the time to go into the site statistics to find out this information, which I never do prior to reading the emails. Of course I assume they're coming from sane people who have genuine comments about the site, and not some mentally unstable person seeking my attention.

Additionally, this man is a Lawyer. He is married. He has children. And comes from a fairly well known family in his area. My friend has encouraged me numerous times (each time I say, "Good grief, nutty boy emailed again!") to put his full name on this site -- as well as his office contact information, for anyone who might need an Ambulance chasing Attorney. However, I just don't have it in me, as I assume he's harmless, and just vying for my attention from a distance. Further evidence he's unstable.

That being said, if you have something productive or interesting to email, please feel free. If you're just a psychopath with far too much time on your hands (because your career is obviously down the tubes), please keep your comments to yourself as I really have no interest in the mundane diatribes of a very lonely man.

Moving along to much more important things...

A friend of mine who I have the greatest respect for has filmed a few episodes for a show during Ramadan. He will be appearing tonight after Maghrib at about 6:20. I have to confirm the channel with him, but will assume for now it's either MBC1 or Kuwait Channel 2. He's such a good person, with a very white heart, and I am really excited to see him on television. For those of you who live on this side of the world you're familiar with the great shows that come on during Ramadan. One of them was filmed partially in my building, and the Hariss was in it the other night. I haven't seen him to tell him how great he was, but it was nice seeing him have that opportunity. There are several different programs, but I prefer the Kuwait ones. It's kinda cool to say, "Ooooh, I know him" or "Oooh, I live there!" or "Oooh, I have eaten there many times!" I suppose the difference between here and the states is that America is so large, seeing famous landmarks, etc. in movies is expected. Kuwait is so tiny it's almost intimate to see people you know, and places you have been being featured on television.

The weather is so much nicer today than it's been the past several weeks. Though it's easily 115 degrees out there today, it almost feels 'cool' as compared to the norm this time of year.

I went to the Sultan Center yesterday afternoon around 4:30pm -- clearly this is the time everyone in Kuwait goes to Sultan Center as I had to drive around it 4 times to find a place to park. Even the distant spots which require a lot of walking were all taken. This wasn't a good sign. I managed to get in, get my items, and get out in a timely manner though. However, while inside I found myself admiring these camel looking Kuwaiti men in their CID uniforms. Yeah, I know, it was only 4:30, everyone is still fasting. I avoided eye contact at all cost to respect the fact they were probably fasting, and I tried to ensure I didn't end up on the same isle as them. Not to prevent them from being tempted to have a conversation, but to prevent me from ending up in jail for sexually harassing two CID employees. Not sure if it's just me, and the fact that I've been pretty much hanging out with one person lately. Or if these really were the most gorgeous men to walk the face of the earth. Perhaps I just have a thing for the uniform. Not really sure. But I have to say, their presence made my drive around Sultan Center well worth it. I don't do the 'number' or 'bluetooth' game -- so I generally accept they're simply there for my viewing pleasure only.

OK, so this morning I wake up to get ready to come to the office and discover my water pressure is really low. This isn't a good thing since I had meetings this morning and really had somewhere to be by a specific time. No water pressure generally ends up meaning no water flowing from the shower head. There has to be enough pressure to make it up the hose to the shower head for water to flow from there. Definitely not in America anymore, Toto. I managed to get myself and my hair washed, but by the time we came around to conditioning -- poof! Water was all gone. Sooo, today is perhaps the worst hair day of my entire life. When of course I had a meeting. Doesn't it always happen that way?

Tonight I believe some friends and I are going to the Sheraton for dinner. The spread they have for Ramadan is just amazing. We had a business dinner there last year, and were totally impressed with the food and the service. I've heard a lot of good things about the Hilton Mangaf this year as well. I'm sure we'll manage to get over there within the next couple of weeks as well. I certainly hope I have water when I get home from work today -- it would be really nice to take a shower and condition my hair before heading out for dinner. It's a day like today I wish I could just opt for the salon, a Moroccan bath, and hair treatments with massage. But that thing called 'work' continues to get in the way. Oh well, life, life, life.

31 aug 09 @ 1:51 pm amst          Comments

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Another one...

Filipino breaks fasting rules


Kuwait : A Filipino man, whose identity has not been disclosed, was reportedly caught by police in Sharq for breaking the fasting rules during Ramadan, reports Al-Anba daily.
The incident took place on the first day of Ramadan. He was caught drinking in the open in broad daylight.
According to reports the man faces a KD 100 fine or 30 days imprisonment.

25 aug 09 @ 11:12 am amst          Comments

Sunday, August 23, 2009

Day 1 -- Arrest already

Woman nabbed for chewing gum on the first day of Ramadan
Kuwait : A woman was arrested on the first day of Ramadan for breaking her fast by chewing gum.
According to sources, security officers from the Hawalli governorate spotted the woman chewing gum at 5:30 am while they were on patrol duty. When they questioned her about the act, she said she had the personal freedom to do as she pleased.
She was referred to the authorities and a case was registered.
23 aug 09 @ 9:16 pm amst          Comments

Saturday, August 22, 2009

 Ramadan Kareem

The Prophet’s (PBUH) sermon on the advent of Ramadan


‘O  People! The month of Allah (Ramadan) has come with its mercies, blessings and forgivenesses. Allah has decreed this month the best of all months. The days of this month are the best among the days and the nights are the best among the nights and the hours during Ramadan are the best among the hours. This is a month in which you have been invited by Him (to fast and pray). Allah has honoured you in it. In every breath you take is a reward of Allah, your sleep is worship, your good deeds are accepted and your invocations are answered. Therefore, you must invoke your Lord in all earnestness with hearts free from sin and evil, and pray that Allah may help you to keep fast, and to recite the Holy Qur’an. Indeed!, miserable is the one who is deprived of Allah’s forgiveness in this great month. While fasting remember the hunger and thirst on the Day of Judgement. Give alms to the poor and needy. Pay respect to your elders, have sympathy for your youngsters and be kind towards your relatives and kinsmen. Guard your tongue against unworthy words, and your eyes from scenes that are not worth seeing (forbidden) and your ears from sounds that should not be heard.


Be kind to orphans so that if your children may become orphans they will also be treated with kindness. Do repent to Allah for your sins and supplicate with raised hands at the times of prayer as these are the best times, during which Allah Almighty looks at His servants with mercy. Allah Answers if they supplicate, Responds if they call, Grants if He is asked, and Accepts if they entreat. O people! you have made your conscience the slave of your desires. Make it free by invoking Allah for forgiveness. Your back may break from the heavy load of your sins, so prostrate yourself before Allah for long intervals, and make this load lighter. Understand fully that Allah has promised in His Honour and Majesty that, people who perform salat and sajda (prostration) will be guarded from Hell-fire on the Day of Judgement.

O people!, if anyone amongst you arranges for iftar (meal at sunset) for any believer, Allah will reward him as if he had freed a slave, and Allah will forgive him his sins. A companion asked: “but not all of us have the means to do so” The Prophet (SAAWS) replied: Keep yourself away from Hell-fire though it may consist of half a date or even some water if you have nothing else.


O people!, anyone who during this month cultivates good manners, will walk over the Sirat (bridge to Paradise) on the day when feet will tend to slip. For anyone who during this month eases the workload of his servants, Allah will make easy his accounting, and for anyone who doesn’t hurt others during this month, Allah will safeguard him from His Wrath on the Day of Judgement. Anyone who respects and treats an orphan with kindness during this month, Allah shall look at him with kindness on that Day. Anyone who treats his kinsmen well during this month, Allah will bestow His Mercy on him on that Day, while anyone who mistreats his kinsmen during this month, Allah will keep away from His Mercy. Whomever offers the recommended prayers during this month, Allah will save him from Hell, and whomever observes his obligations during this month, his reward will be seventy times the reward during other months. Whomever repeatedly invokes Allah’s blessings on me, Allah will keep his scale of good deeds heavy, while the scales of others will be tending to lightness. Whomever recites during this month an ayat (verse) of the Holy Qur’an, will get the reward of reciting the whole Qur’an in other months.


O people!, the gates of Paradise remain open during this month. Pray to your Lord that they may not be closed for you. While the gates of Hell are closed, pray to your Lord that they never open for you. Satan has been chained, invoke your Lord not to let him dominate you. Ali ibn Talib (RAA) said: “I asked, ‘O messenger of Allah, what are the best deeds during this month’?” ‘He replied: ‘O Abu-Hassan, the best of deeds during this month is to be far from what Allah has forbidden’.”

22 aug 09 @ 2:10 pm amst          Comments

Friday, August 21, 2009

Bidoon or No?
KUWAIT: The death toll in a fire at a wedding celebration has risen to 46 women and children with the death of Awaisha Sakhri Al-Thefeiri of severe burns she suffered in the blaze. The Ministry of Interior's identification center meanwhile resumed examining the DNA of unidentified victims and identified two of them.

Informed sources said crime scene investigators were still examining the plastic bottle suspected to have contained the flammable liquid used by the suspect in incinerating the wedding tent. The sources also noted that strict orders had been issued to the criminal evidence department to take blood samples and fingerprints from the survivors who were still being treated in hospital to identify them, as they were horribly burned and could not be identified by their own relatives.

Official sources also said the suspect would be taken to reenact her crime in an undisclosed similar location because of fear for her safety and the number of security forces needed to secure the surroundings if she did so at the actual site.

Meanwhile, the groom in the Jahra tragedy has blamed his mother-in-law and his wife's aunt for her attitude which he said prompted him to take another wife, leading indirectly to his first wife starting the blaze. He also revealed that his first wife had warned him that she intended to set the wedding tent on fire, but he had dismissed her claims since he did not believe she would do so.

In an interview with local daily Al-Anbaa, the groom, unemployed 23-year-old Zayed Mohammed Al-Thefeiri, said that he never dreamt that his plans to take a second wife would, rather than ending his suffering with his first wife, would bring more tragedy to haunt his second marriage forever. Al-Thefeiri said that his marriage to his first wife, who he wed in 2004, had gone smoothly until her mother and aunt began interfering in their lives. He said that this interference made it impossible for him and drove
him to take a second wife.

Sounding distressed and still shocked by Saturday's horrific events, Al-Thefeiri revealed that he had married his first wife in 2004, with the couple having two children, a boy and a girl, in the next couple of years. He said that they had initially been happy, but added that he had been planning to take another wife for some time due to the constant interference in their marriage of his mother-in-law and his wife's aunt, who he said had only recently been naturalized.

I'm 23 years old and I've been unemployed for five years now. I used to be an army soldier and was dismissed for private reasons that I don't wish to discuss," he said before talking about how he and his first wife had grown apart. "[My first wife's mother and aunt] made her refuse to take care of me, to cook for me and spend time with me," he claimed, laying most of the blame on his first wife's aunt, who he said was 40 years old and married to an 18-year-old man. "This led to my wife starting a rebellio
n and following in [her aunt's] footsteps in being too free!

Three months ago, therefore, Al-Thefeiri got engaged to his bedoon second wife. On the subject of why he did not divorce his first wife before remarrying, he said that he was friends with her brothers and stayed married for their sakes. "Our main problem was her aunt, originally an Iraqi, who only received citizenship through her Kuwaiti husband," he claimed, adding that a maid working for his parents' neighbors had informed him on the day after the fire that she had been called over by his first wife who
was standing outside the wedding tent, along with two other women and two men, and noticed that she was carrying a container of petrol and a lighter. The maid said that the first wife had asked her to bring a newspaper, which he believes was used to kindle the flames. "I'm in deep shock and still can't believe what happened," he bemoaned.

One of Al-Thefeiri's neighbors, whose mother and sister were injured in the wedding tent blaze, however claimed that Al-Thefeiri, who regularly attended his diwaniya, had informed him that his first wife played in a folk music group and that he had divorced her over a year ago. Another neighbor who lives across the street from the Al-Thefeiri family's home, was full of praise for Zayed's father, who died in the 1980s, who he said was a good man who had worked for the police.

Another of the family's neighbors claimed that Zayed was a drunkard with a criminal record who had only recently been released from prison and suggested that he had only been naturalized in recent years, saying, "Zayed used to be a bedoon and only got his citizenship eight months ago." Another resident of the neighborhood said that Zayed had been married more than once previously, stating, "This is his fourth marriage," and claiming that Zayed had already divorced the wife who set the wedding tent on fire.
21 aug 09 @ 6:10 pm amst          Comments

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

The Interrogation --
PROSECUTOR FILES CHARGES; ‘Premeditated’ murder, arson; Tent toll hits 45

KUWAIT CITY, Aug 18:  The Public Prosecutor on Tuesday charged the woman, identified only as N.S, who has been accused of setting fire to a marriage tent in Jahra last Saturday, with premeditated murder and arson that led to the death of 45 women and children.
The suspect appeared before the Public Prosecution late Monday evening where she told the prosecutor that she only committed the crime after receiving an SMS message from one of the sisters of her ex-husband, telling her that the wedding was about to start.
Prosecutor Faisal Al-Harbi headed the interrogations at Main Qasr Palace, under the supervision of Al-Jahra Chief Prosecutor Talal Al-Shaye to prevent the relatives of the victims from disturbing the proceedings.  The suspect arrived at the Public Prosecution under tight security.  She was escorted by uniformed and plainclothes officers.  She was said to be in very bad psychological condition and on the verge of tears.
The suspect admitted the crime when she appeared before the Public Prosecution and her confessions have been documented through audio and video recordings. 
According to the suspect, her ex-husband filed for divorce six months ago, but they reconciled later, then he filed for divorce again, and the decision was finalized only three days before he got married to the second wife. 
While the wedding ceremony was going on, the suspect allegedly received an SMS message from one of the groom’s sisters, encouraging her to attend the wedding party as everything was going smoothly.  It was at this point that she decided to spoil the wedding.  She also told the authorities that she has been experiencing financial difficulties and she still loves her husband, so she ruined the wedding.  She kept on repeating, “I did not expect such a tragedy to happen.”
The family of the woman is finding it difficult to get a lawyer because all those who have been approached reportedly refused to take up the case.
Sources told the Arab Times that the lawyers do not want to defend the suspect because of the sensitivity of the case. 
On the other hand, security sources said the Criminal Investigation Department (CID) has started checking cassettes from the surveillance cameras at the gasoline station where the suspect allegedly purchased petrol to identify the taxi driver.  The Public Prosecution has also issued a warrant for the arrest of the driver.
Sources revealed the security authorities also summoned a Filipina, who supervised the wedding buffet, for questioning.
Sources added the Public Prosecution on Tuesday called owners of the cars that were damaged by the fire for questioning. 

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Following are excerpts from the interrogations:
Prosecutor:  What is your name?

Suspect: My name is N.Y.M.S.

Prosecutor:  Why did you commit this crime?

Suspect:  I never thought it would end up this way.  I just wanted to create disturbance at the wedding and spoil the happiness of my husband.  (She started crying.)  I received a message from the sister of my husband, saying, the wedding is amazing.  This provoked me to pour petrol on the tent and set fire to it. 
She kept on saying “I did not expect death and injuries.”

Prosecutor:  You have been accused of intentionally setting fire to the tent and causing the death of 41 women and children, who attended your ex-husband’s wedding.  The number of death is increasing.  You also disfigured tens of women.

Suspect:  I swear to Allah I did not mean to hurt or kill anyone.  (She continued crying.)  All the casualties were my husband’s victims.  He is the reason behind this tragedy.  Initially, I thought the fire would spoil the wedding and make the women run away, but I heard horrifying screams, so I immediately went back to the taxi, which was waiting for me outside the venue and took me back home.  The driver had no idea that I set fire to the tent.  All I wanted was to make my husband regret his actions.

The Prosecutor allowed the suspect to rest for one hour before going on with the interrogation as she was crying continuously.

Prosecutor:  I need you to provide me with details of what happened.

Suspect:  Hours before the wedding, I was thinking of a way to spoil the ceremony.  My desire to ruin the wedding intensified when I received an SMS message from one of the sisters of my husband, saying, the wedding is splendid and everybody is happy.  At the moment, the evil played with my mind as if somebody is telling me, ‘your husband is getting married to another woman.’ 
I immediately called a taxi office in Jleeb Al-Shuyoukh and the driver told me I had to pay KD5 going to Jahra, so I asked him, instead, to take me to a salon in Farwaniya and charged me KD1.5.  After paying the agreed amount, I got off, hailed another taxi and asked the driver to take me to a gasoline station in Sulaibiya, next to Sixth Ring Road.  I took a big bottle of water, emptied it and filled it with petrol.
I then reached Al-Oyoun area in Jahra, where the house of my husband is located, and poured petrol on the side of the airconditioning unit at the marriage tent, ensuring that nobody seen me, and then I used a match stick to light the tent.  I quickly returned to the taxi, which was waiting for me.  After few seconds, I heard sirens as security vehicles, ambulances and firefighters rushed to the location.  I thought they were going to put out the fire, but it never occurred to me that it would cause the death and injury of many people.
I went to my family’s house in Al-Rehab and saw news reports about the death and injuries resulting from a fire in Jahra.  I started crying.  When I arrived at the house, I thought of a way not to raise suspicions on my involvement in the fire.  I went to Al-Rehab Police Station and told security officers that I received a message from somebody, telling me I am one of the suspects, so I asked them to register a case, but they refused because nobody had filed a complaint against me.  I went back home and did not sleep the whole day.
I purchased newspapers the next day, and then the criminal investigators came as they received information about my involvement in the fire.

My husband has criminal records and I lived with him under difficult circumstances.  I sacrificed a lot for him, yet he decided to marry another woman.  All I wanted to do was to spoil his wedding and hurt his relatives, who encouraged him to marry another woman.

Prosecutor:  Is there somebody who knows about your plan to burn the tent?

Suspect: I never told anyone, but I had earlier warned my husband that he will pay a high price if he insists on marrying another woman.  He did not take my warnings seriously.  His sister’s SMS message that the wedding was going well, that everybody was happy, and that my husband would spend the night with his new wife in a hotel, infuriated me.

Prosecutor:  What happened when you returned home?

Suspect:  When the officers at the police station let me go, I discovered that I could get away with the crime.  I tried taking pills to end my life, but I stopped.

 Prosecutor:  Are there disagreements between you and the family of your husband?

Suspect:  His family is the main cause of our problems, even from the start of our relationship.  I spoilt the wedding to burn their hearts and that of my husband. His sisters have done many things to me.

Prosecutor:  What have they done against you?

Suspect:  They used to harm me and tried their best to create problems between me and my husband.  They have succeeded.  They encouraged my husband to marry another woman — a non-Kuwaiti - to get rid of me and my children.  They have given my husband a substitute for me. 


Maid’s interrogation
The Public Prosecution also summoned the Asian housemaid, who works for one of the suspect’s neighbors and is the main witness in this case.  She told investigators that she knows the suspect.  On the day of the incident, she saw the suspect clad in black gown, carrying two bottles of petrol, which she poured on the tent and set fire to it. 
According to the housemaid, she did not attend the wedding party as she stayed in her sponsor’s house to guard it.  She said the tent disappeared within minutes and heard the agonizing cries of women and children.
The investigators released the housemaid after confronting the suspect with these accusations.


Family of the accused
Security sources said the seven brothers of the accused warmly welcomed the officers, who went to their house, to question her.  They quoted the eldest brother as saying that “our sister will be declared not guilty.”  They then entered the diwaniya and women hall where they saw the mother whose eyes were swollen due to incessant crying.


The mother told the officers that on the day of the incident, she instructed her daughters, including the suspect, to clean the rooms as she intends to set up some things she was planning to purchase from Souq Al-Jomaa.  She went out at 7:15 pm and the suspect was inside the house when she left.  While she was at the ‘souq’, she received a call from another daughter, asking her to hurry home, as the other daughter had been accused of causing the fire.  She added her daughter - the accused - received a number of messages, blaming her for the fire.
Revealing several family members attended the wedding, the mother went on to say some of her cousins and aunts were at the party.  She said the aunt of the bridegroom called them to check if the accused was at home.  She confirmed the accused answered the phone, so they (the groom’s relatives) knew that she was at home at the time.  “How can my daughter commit a horrible crime in a matter of minutes?” she wondered.


The mother revealed the groom’s brother also called the accused and when the latter took the call, he allegedly said, “you responded to my call after doing all that!”  She argued these calls only prove that my daughter, the accused, was at home when the fire started.  “My daughter is innocent.  How can she commit such an  act?  She is usually calm and a coward,” she asserted.
Asked if the accused informed the groom that she intended to burn the wedding tent in case he married another woman, the mother stressed “my daughter did not talk to her husband, but his sister kept on sending provoking messages.  She told my daughter that she will never come back to her brother’s house.  Before the wedding, she called my daughter and quarreled with her, prompting my daughter to say, ‘I will burn the house if you give him a new wife.’  She just said it as she was mad at her husband’s sister.  She did not say that she will burn the tent.”   


On the other hand, one of the sisters affirmed the accused had dinner with them as their brother brought food at 9:00 pm.  At the time, the wife of the groom’s uncle called them and asked them to watch news about the fire on TV.  She said the accused received several messages accusing her of setting fire to the tent.  She added the accused and another sister went to their neighbor, identified as Oum Raed, and asked him to testify that the accused was at home when the tragic incident happened.  She stated they informed one of their brothers, who was at a café at the time.  He hurried home and took the accused to Al-Rabiya Police Station to file a complaint about the messages his sister had been receiving, accusing her of committing the crime.  However, the officer at the station told them he could not register a case in this regard.  The officer also pointed out that there was a camera in his room that took their pictures to prove that they were at the station.


Asked if the accused had problems with her husband, the sister, along with other family members, refuted the allegation.  “The groom’s sister instigated conflicts between the couple and she wanted him to marry another woman, so she arranged the whole wedding,” claimed one of the suspect’s sisters.
Asked if the accused knew about the wedding plans, her mother confirmed she knew, but her housemaid had already affirmed that she did not go out of the house and she had dinner with her sisters.
Commenting on the statement of a housemaid who said the accused asked for newspapers at the time of the incident, the family vehemently denied this, claiming this housemaid might have come from the groom’s side.  “Is it logical to ask a housemaid to provide her with newspapers publicly to commit a crime?” the mother asked. 
Another sister told the officers that the suspect’s husband went to their house at 3:30 pm on Tuesday to take some clothes for her as he was expected to go to the cell where the suspect was detained.


Asked if the groom hit the accused when they were still together, the mother and sisters stressed “he never beat her.  She always praised him, saying, he loved her and took care of her, but his sister often caused problems between them.  If not for his sister’s prodding, my daughter’s ex-husband would not have remarried because he loves my daughter.  Everything happened because his sisters convinced him to marry another woman and they even shouldered the wedding expenses.  Moreover, my daughter is very young.  She has little children and is currently pregnant.  Her husband also gave her money before the wedding and had agreed with her that she would return to his house at the beginning of Ramadan as he reserved a separate room for her.”
The mother pointed out if she had an iota of doubt that her daughter went out of the house at the time of the incident, she herself, would declare that her daughter committed the crime.  She also emphasized that her daughter never goes out of the house without her little daughter as the latter is very close to her.  She then asked the Ministry of Interior to be merciful to her daughter.
The wife of one of the brothers of the accused also confirmed that they did not go out of the house as they were asked to clean it.
On the other hand, Oum Raed, the suspect’s neighbor, said in an interview that she was sitting at home when the accused came crying.  “I thought something wrong happened to her mother,” she stated without going into details.


Agencies add:
Toll
The death toll in a fire at a Kuwaiti wedding celebration has risen to 45 women and children, an official said Tuesday, as authorities questioned a suspect they say confessed to starting the blaze.
Fire department chief Brig Gen Jassem Al-Mansouri said four more victims died in hospital and six remained in critical condition.
Authorities announced Monday they had a suspect in custody who confessed to starting the fire for “personal reasons,” but they did not provide any details about that person’s identity.
Calls to the Interior Ministry for comment on the reports were unanswered Tuesday.
Saturday’s blaze in the tribal area of Al-Jahra, west of Kuwait City, destroyed the wedding tent where guests were celebrating in just three minutes. It was Kuwait’s worst fire in almost four decades.
His Highness the Amir Sheikh Sabah Al-Ahmad Al-Jaber Al-Sabah has ordered an “Amiri grant” for families of the victims of fire that broke out on Saturday at a wedding in Jahra’s Al-Ayoun area, said State Minister for Cabinet Affairs Roudhan Al-Roudhan on Tuesday.


Speaking to KUNA, the state minister said, “Due to the brutality of this crime, which was found to have been perpetrated, and due to the immense impact it has had on the feelings of all citizens and expatriates in Kuwait, His Highness the Amir ordered this grant to the families of the victims.”
Meanwhile, King Abdullah bin Abdulaziz ordered transfer on Tuesday of Saudi victims of the Jahra wedding fire in Kuwait to Saudi Arabia for treatment.
Saudi Health Minister Abdullah Al-Rabi’a told the press 12 of the injured victims were flown to Saudi Arabia for treatment.

By Rena Sadeghi, Munaif Nayef and Iqbal Saleh

19 aug 09 @ 3:14 pm amst          Comments

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Additional Update -- Wedding Fire
Arrest … ‘confession’ in wedding tent blaze; ‘I wanted to burn his heart’

KUWAIT CITY, Aug 17: “I wanted to burn his heart like he burnt mine when he decided to marry someone else”, the 23-year-old ex-wife of the bridegroom was said to have told authorities investigating the fire that turned a wedding reception tent into an inferno which claimed dozens of lives. The Interior Ministry confirmed Monday afternoon that one person (without mentioning the sex) had been arrested for the fire which took the lives of 41 persons. The ministry only made a short statement, saying, “the perpetrator of the crime has been identified and arrested within a record time” without revealing the identity. “We have identified the person who confessed to committing the crime for personal reasons.”

Thirty-nine died immediately while two died on Monday in hospital.  Except for five children all the other were women, with four of them pregnant. The new bride was injured but she survived.  Her mother and sister, however, died in the fire. The divorce of the ex-wife is said to have been finalized only three days before the wedding. Most of the dead were charred beyond recognition. Some 90 persons were taken to hospital with first, second and third degree burns. Sources say 52 of these remain hospitalized with nearly two dozen sent to Al-Babtain Burns Center. Some of these patients also can’t be recognized. Acting Ministry of Interior Undersecretary Lieutenant General Ghazi Al-Omar and Criminal Investigations Department (CID) Director Major General Abdulhameed Al-Awadhi headed the investigations. 

While the ministry said that the “perpetrator” had confessed to the crime, security sources told the Arab Times that the woman was crying all the time, sometimes confessing that she had committed the crime, and then sometimes retracting her statement and saying that she had nothing to do with it. Sources told the Arab Times that the suspect was taken to the Prosecution Monday. These sources, however, could not say what happened at the Prosecution. The news could not be independently confirmed. Disclosing the perpetrator is detained at a separate cell at the CID building in Salmiya, sources stated she is wearing a ‘hijab’ (veil) and under strict security to prevent her from committing suicide. Sources revealed two CID officers have been deployed to watch over her. Sources added the security authorities are preparing for the arrest of some women who allegedly provoked the perpetrator to set fire to the tent.

The accused is reported to have confessed that she poured petrol over the tent and set it alight. Police sources add it was not the intention of the woman to kill anyone as she was planning to get revenge by spoiling the wedding. The accused, who has two children from her first marriage,  kept insisting Sunday that she had nothing to do with the fire but is said to have confessed Monday after her maid said she saw the woman pouring petrol on the tent. The maid is also said to have heard the woman tell her former mother-in-law, during a fight, that she planned to ruin her former husband’s wedding by burning the tent. Police sources say the temperature inside the tent must have reached 1,500 degrees Centigrade within one minute 30 seconds of the fire being started.  The whole tent burnt down in only three minutes.

In another version of the story published in Al-Watan Arabic daily, sources said the suspect was arrested after a Sri Lankan maid present at the wedding told security officers that she saw the woman carrying a container filled with petrol in one hand and a lighter on the other. The maid claimed the woman also asked for a bunch of papers. Other maids working at the wedding also testified that they had seen the woman set fire to the tent with the help of kerosene-soaked rags. During interrogation, the suspect admitted going to a petrol station in Al-Oyoun by taxi and filling two bottles with kerosene. She then went to the wedding, poured the kerosene outside the tent and set it on fire, after which she left in a taxi.

The suspect went on to add that she did not intend to cause a catastrophe. She only wanted to ruin the night for her ex-husband, as she was upset by his decision to remarry. Investigations are on to find the taxi driver and summon him for questioning. Meanwhile, several patrol teams rushed to Taima and Jahra Police Stations after receiving information that a large number of the victims’ relatives gathered in front of the stations Sunday night. SMS messages have been circulated on the alleged presence of the victim’s families in the stations, prompting the security authorities to put both stations on high alert. However, the security officers did not find anybody at the stations, indicating the victim’s relatives are aware of the hard work of the officers and they trust the ability of the authorities to punish the perpetrator.

Al-Qabas newspaper said the 23-year-old woman had told police she used petrol to torch a wedding tent packed with women and children to avenge her ex-husband’s “bad treatment” of her before their divorce. Interior ministry spokesman Colonel Mohammad Al-Saber told state-run Kuwait Television that Saturday’s fire — which engulfed the tent in just minutes and triggered a panicked stampede —  was an act of arson. “We have identified the perpetrator who confessed to committing the crime for personal reasons,” Saber said, without giving any further details. Last year, two women died and several others wounded in a similar incident in Jahra which lies 50 kms (30 miles) west of the capital and has a population of around 500,000, most of them tribespeople. Most wedding parties in the conservative Muslim Gulf state are segregated in line with local tradition.

Medical officials have said that specialised medical teams from Germany and Britain were to arrive on Monday to treat the injured.
The “final and exact” death toll discussed in a high-level security meeting Monday was 41, said Kuwaiti Fire Department chief, Brig. Gen Jassem Al-Mansouri. Earlier reports Monday had raised the death toll to 43 after two people died overnight from burns. But Al-Mansouri said after further investigation authorities determined that only 39 people died during the initial blaze. He said the bodies were so badly burned, it was difficult for investigators to determine how many people perished. The chief, who described the fire as the worst disaster he’s seen in almost four decades of service, said 6 bodies were still unidentified and it was not known if the bride survived the carnage.

Fifty-two others injured in the blaze remained in the hospital, the health minister, Hilal Al-Sayer, told the TV. Al-Mansouri and the Interior Ministry declined to comment on the reports accusing the ex-wife of having a role in the fire pending an investigation. uthorities have promised to publicize the full results of the probe. “The loss of many lives in a fire that consumed a marriage tent in Al-Oyoun Saturday is a clear indication of people’s outright disregard of the law,” MP Saleh Al-Mulla said Monday. Urging the government to prepare a detailed report on the tragic fire incident which shocked the whole nation, Al-Mulla stressed the government should present an objective and transparent report to the Parliament. He went on to say “MPs will fully support those who did their work honestly, while those who played with people’s lives must face the consequences.”

Al-Mulla praised the Ministry of Interior (MoI), Kuwait Fire Service Directorate (KFSD) and Ministry of Health (MoH) for their prompt response that saved the lives of many people. He said the wedding tents, which were erected in front of the house, accommodated 300 women and children. He claimed such big tents have been established without a license. He asked “what is the role of Kuwait Municipality in this regard? Where are the inspectors who are supposed to check the tents?” After expressing his condolences to the victims’ families, Al-Mulla lamented “the loss of precious lives is a deep blow to our hearts. The whole nation is mourning the death of these people and this incident should be an eye-opener for us to push for the strict implementation of the Municipality bylaw on security and safety procedures implemented in venues for public occasions.”

MP Askar Al-Enezi, on the other hand, cautioned the government against the ramifications of taking routine procedures in dealing with the tragic death of 41 women and children as such an incident requires extraordinary measures.  While commending the efforts of physicians at Al-Jahra Hospital who provided treatment to the first batch of casualties, Al-Enezi criticized the lack of essential medical equipment in the hospital. “This was blatant when some of the injured had to be transferred to other hospitals like Farwaniya and Al-Babtain, proving that Al-Jahra Hospital is not capable of handling emergency situations of such magnitude,” he added. Al-Enezi also unveiled his plan to demand formation of a parliamentary investigative committee to look into medical errors and technical faults in Al-Jahra and Farwaniya governorates. “This is the second time in as many years that a fire has ruined a wedding celebrated by women in Al-Jahra, and yet the government fails to take essential measures of constructing new halls for such occasions,” he said.

In a related issue, former MP Dr Hussein Quwaian has expressed his readiness to treat those injured in the Jahra fire incident at his private clinic free of charge. He emphasized the need to provide all the necessary facilities and means to treat the injured. He suggested the formation of an emergency team that will work round the clock to prevent the recurrence of this tragedy. Stating that HH the Amir of Kuwait Sheikh Sabah Al-Ahmad Al-Sabah and HH the Crown Prince Sheikh Nawaf Al-Ahmad Al-Sabah are keen on providing all means for the treatment of the injured, Quwaian asserted “we, as doctors, should join the Amir and Crown Prince in handling this disaster. In spite of our differences, we should unite under such difficult circumstances.”

By Rena Sadeghi, Dahlia Kholaif, Abubaker A. Ibrahim, Munaif Nayef, Jaber Al-Hamoud and Agencies

18 aug 09 @ 2:23 pm amst          Comments

Sunday, August 16, 2009

Jahra Wedding Fire -- So Tragic
UPDATE: Monday, August 17, 2009 7:32 PM

It was arson:

An arrest has been made, and apparently a confession given by the ex wife. The news article is posted below.

When my close friend called to update me, he was explaining the woman lives in an area near Rabiya, and has confessed to the crimes. From what we were told last night there were three witnesses, though the newspaper is listing one. I asked my friend what could have possibly been the motivation for this, and though the newspaper sites 'revenge', my friend said, "You know how you women are... crazy as hell." OK, he's accurate to a degree, and there are times we all get a bit silly -- but murdering scores of innocent women and children? How can this thought even cross someone's mind? Additionally, if her ex husband treated her poorly, why not address this with him? What did the new wife have to do with this?

In the bedu culture here in Kuwait, rarely do men and women necessarily 'date', and even more rare will a bedu man marry a woman he has 'dated' before. She's generally not viewed as a very good woman in his eyes. Therefore, I highly doubt this new wife was someone who was the cause of their divorce, and more than likely had never even met her soon to be husband before. We're not talking about a typical American break up where one woman is calling another woman, telling her the husband is cheating, and the other woman going over to her house, and screaming at her after catching her in bed with her husband. This is not the 'Kuwaiti way' and certainly not the bedu way. Of course I am assuming, but I would venture to say these two women had never even spoken before, and had very little knowledge of one another -- if any at all other than "I have an ex wife."

Perhaps the ex wife felt it was a shame to be divorced at the age of 23, and feared she wouldn't be someone who would be marriage material to another man. Imagine instead, being known as the woman responsible for the death of 40+ innocent women and children.

 

kuwait fireThe ex-wife of the groom at a Kuwait wedding where a fire killed 43 women and children and wounded some 90 others, has confessed to starting the blaze as an act of revenge, according to local press reports published on Monday. Al-Qabas daily conveyed the 23-year-old woman had told police she used petrol to torch a wedding tent packed with women and children to avenge her ex-husband's "bad treatment" of her before their divorce.

Quoting unnamed security sources, Al-Qabas reported the first wife's Asian maid told police she saw her pouring petrol around the large women-only tent in the town of Jahra before the blaze started.





UPDATE:  Monday, August 17, 2009 7:27 AM

Rumors, allegations, and suspicions:

Though the information I discuss here will be somewhat limited as it's not been made official and the last thing I want to do is spread ugly rumors -- I am alarmed by what I've heard.

A friend of mine who has a position which would be considered a 'need to know', called me from dewaniya last night to share with me something he had discovered. It seems (again, unofficial), it's possible this fire wasn't an accident at all. Based on the information shared with me there are 3 witnesses to something (no details allowed) which could be considered evidence a crime took place. Additionally, the person of interest (unofficially) in this possible crime isn't a stranger to the victims.
Because the information shared with me is confidential, as well as unofficial, I prefer not to go into anymore details. Though I do wonder what type of person has it in them to commit such a horrific act? If it is discovered someone is maliciously responsible for this, what must they be feeling today? Did they do this knowing so many people (including children) would die? Or was it meant to be a silly prank to ruin a wedding? If it's true that someone did this purposely, I suspect they're terrified for their life right about now.

It's important to me that I always share accurate information here, just in case anyone is actually reading this. I never want to present Kuwait, or my personal experiences in a false light. Therefore, I will state again this update is unofficial and so far based on hearsay. In the end, I am certain, if this was not an accident -- someone will be held responsible.

Again, my sympathies to all who experienced loss.





Last night around 1am I get a phone call -- considering the typical Kuwaiti schedule, this is perfectly normal hours to call someone. I saw it was a dear friend of mine who I have known for years here in Kuwait, and we talk daily. I assumed he must be on his way home from dewaniya and figured he would check on me. Again, typical.

Unfortunately, his call wasn't to check on me -- but to tell me of a horrific event that took place in Ayoun, Jahra last night. It seems there was a wedding, and the men had rented a hall. However, the women's portion was taking place near the home, in a wedding tent. Wedding tents are very common and used often by the bedu population, especially in the warmer months. Unfortunately, these tents are not flame retardant, and rarely equipped with fire extinguishers. But often inside you have the burning fahem, open flames, and hot food serving isles.

Last night's wedding turned tragic when it seems a fire broke out inside the tent. As of this morning at 1am there were 45 women and children confirmed dead, and another 80+ in the hospital with a variety of injuries. Some critical, some stable. We all expect the number of deceased to rise, as many will not overcome their injuries.

Weddings are a very special event -- all over the world. This was just a tragedy for all. My friend, all of his friends, and all of their friends (who are all from the Jahra, South Jahra, and Sulabikhat areas) have spent their evening contacting their friends -- as certainly many of their family members were victims in this fire.

My heart goes out to everyone who lost a family member or friend in last night's tragedy. There are no words to describe the pain I feel. I've often discussed here my love for Jahra, and the people of that area. We have many dear friends who still reside there, and I spend much time on the weekends there. I will continue to update this post as I get additional details from people close to the situation.

The country's ruler, Sheikh Sabah al-Ahmed al-Sabah, extended condolences to the families of the victims, according to the Kuwait News Agency.


He also announced that in sympathy with the victims and their families he would not be receiving well wishers as he traditionally does for the advent of the Muslim holy month of Ramadan which starts around 22 August.


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KUWAIT CITY – The fire at a wedding tent in Kuwait that killed 41 women and children consumed the structure in a blazing inferno lasting just three minutes, the fire department chief said Sunday.

"It was a horrific scene with bodies and many shoes stuck to the ground at the only exit, they must have trampled over one another," said Brig. Gen. Jassem al-Mansouri, the day after the disaster.

He said Kuwaiti authorities were running DNA tests to identify the 35 women and six children killed in the fire, which left many victims unrecognizable.


Authorities were investigating the cause and al-Mansouri said it could have been faulty electrical wiring, a problem with the equipment used to keep the wedding food buffet warm or the coals used for burning incense.


He added that the fire in al-Jahra, a tribal area west of the capital, was the worst he has seen in his almost four decades of service in this small oil-rich state and close U.S. ally.


Photographs of the scene show the tent was erected in an urban area. The interior was strewn with blackened debris, including the metal frames of chairs and tables, and burnt out air conditioners, a necessity in this hot country where night temperatures in the summer are often above 100 degrees (40 degrees Celsius).


Wedding parties are held separately for women and men, with children attending the women's event. The parties usually feature a catered buffet dinner as well as singing and dancing to Kuwaiti and Arabic music.


No alcohol is served in conservative Kuwait.


Al-Mansouri said 58 injured were still in hospitals, seven in serious condition with severe burns.

Events in tents should be licensed so that authorities approve the type of tent set up and ensure it has the necessary safety features, said the chief, adding that Saturday's event was not licensed.

The upholstery and the stuffing of the chairs used was also highly flammable, said al-Mansouri.

There has been talk of banning wedding tents altogether, though the structures are also used for election campaigns.


It was not clear if the bride survived or how many were in the tent when it caught fire. Al-Mansouri said the structure was 13 yards (12 meters) long and could have housed up to 180 people.

The government had opened a hot line and an information center for relatives of the victims, Kuwaiti state television said.


Kuwaitis hold separate wedding parties for men and women. Men gather for dinner, while women and children sing and dance. In the absence of men, women shed their head coverings and wear revealing evening gowns.


At the end of the celebration, the groom comes to the women’s party to collect his bride. Women are given a warning and they cover up in their black head-to-toe abayas before he enters. No alcohol is served, as it is forbidden in Islam.


In wealthier urban areas, such parties take place in five-star hotels or special halls.
The fire left behind blackened mounds of chairs and tables burnt down to their metal frames, as well as food trays and charred air conditioners.


HH the Amir Sheikh Sabah Al-Ahmed Al-Sabah, has ordered that no expense be spared to treat the survivors and provide comfort to their relatives.


Out of sympathy, he will not be receiving well wishers as he traditionally does for the advent of the Muslim holy month of Ramadan, which starts around Aug 22.


Health Minister Hilal Al-Sayer had earlier told the official KUNA news agency that 76 people with various degrees of burns had been taken to several hospitals in Kuwait, including to intensive care and specialised burn units.


A medical source said Sunday that more than 80 people were injured in the fire as relatives of some victims took them to private hospitals.

Many of the victims had fallen during a stampede as the flames spread through the tent, which was left a smouldering wreck. At least one car was also severely damaged by the fire.


Lawmakers demanded a swift inquiry into the cause of the fire and questioned the speed of the authorities’ response.


Opposition MP Daifallah Buramia said the Jahra fire has shown that the authorities’ response to calamities is not quick enough.

MP Aseel Al-Awadhi called for an investigation into the “fire disaster” and authorities’ failure to apply strict safety and security rules for such tents.

His Highness the Amir on Sunday voiced deep feelings of sadness and sorrow over the tragedy of overnight Jahra fire, which left scores of people killed or injured.

The Amir was addressing an extraordinary cabinet meeting, presided by him, at Seif Palace.
The meeting was attended by HH the Crown Prince Sheikh Nawaf Al-Ahmad Al-Jaber Al-Sabah, National Assembly Deputy Speaker Abdullah Al-Romi, and Minister of Amiri Diwan Sheikh Nasser Sabah Al-Ahmad.

During the meeting, the ministers of health and interior elaborated on the circumstances of the fire that caught a large tent packed with people celebrating a wedding party at the residential district of Jahra, Minister of State for Cabinet Affairs Rawdhan Al-Rawdhan told reporters following the meeting.

They expounded on great efforts exerted by state agencies concerned to put out the fire and take the injured to hospital for necessary medical treatment.

HH the Amir ordered that all facilities should be provided to ensure required medical services to all those injured in the fire, and to ease out the sufferings of the victims’ families, the minister added.
In addition, the cabinet set up a committee led by the cabinet minister, with the ministers of interior and health, the fire squad and Kuwait Municipality as members, to carefully consider all the circumstances of the tragedy and to avoid the recurrence of such incidents in the future.

His Highness the Prime Minister Sheikh Nasser Al-Mohammad Al-Ahmad Al-Sabah on Sunday visited those injured in a huge fire yesterday.

In a statement to reporters, His Highness Sheikh Nasser hailed procedures of the Ministry of Health in terms of speedy transfer of the injured to the hospital to receive necessary treatment and hospitals’ immediate absorption of impacts of this unfortunate incident.

He stressed that the government would not hesitate to provide full health care to the injured.

He expressed his deep sorrow for the victims of the fire, calling God Almighty to bestow his mercy on the deceased.

The Ministry of Interior announced on Sunday the assignment of a hotline to receive inquiries from families of those among the guests at the wedding.

Security Media Director and Official Spokesman Mohammad Al-Saber told KUNA the hotline is “24345161.”

The official also told KUNA a special Criminal Investigation center was set up for families to seek information about their kin.

Director of Jahra health area Dr Abdul Aziz Al-Alfarhoud said Sunday some 90 cases were received by the hospital as a result of Saturday night’s fire.

Speaking to reporters, Al-Farhoud said the injured cases ranged between minor, medium and severe.

Al-Farhoud said that all cases have been dealth with efficiently, praising efforts of all bodies concerned.

He said there are 25 cases ranging between medium and severe were still receiving treatment in the hospital, adding that 21 other cases have been transferred to Al-Babtain hospital for burns, including two severe cases and other two that have been transferred to Al-Farwaniya hospital.

He pointed out that five cases have been taken to intensive care unit at Mubarak Al-Kabir hospital, three seriously.

Asked whether all victims have been identified, Al-Farhoud said the Interior Ministry is responsible for the location of the fire, and the Ministry is the body in charge of identifying the victims.
He said there were five cases with severe burns and will be identified in the next few days, describing the situation as “tragic” but at the same time affirmed that hospital was capable of dealing with such tragedies.

Director of Ibn Sina Hospital and the Babtain Center for Burns and Plastic Surgery Dr Abbas Ramadan said in a statement to Kuwait News Agency (KUNA) that eight cases had been admitted into the critical care unit of the center, two severe cases in Ibn Sina Hospital, in addition to 10 cases whose condition is stable.

Asked about the possibility of receiving more cases in the intensive care unit at the center, Ramadan said there was no space capacity, but there is a possibility of receiving them at the various hospital wards.

In what seemed to be the most heartrending scene Kuwait has ever witnessed throughout its history, Jahra residents on Sunday bade farewell to some of those who died when fire consumed a marriage tent Saturday. 

A large number of people thronged to Jahra and Sulaibikhat cemeteries, praying to Allah, the Almighty, to bestow His mercy on the victims. 

Five of the victims were buried in the graveyard in Jahra and three in Sulaibikhat.  Criminal Investigation Department (CID) vehicles transported the bodies to the graveyards, where the victims’ families and mourners gathered despite the dusty and extremely hot weather.

Jahra cemetery supervisor Mohammad Al-Marri said the cemetery officials prepared 40 graves for adults and 15 for children. He disclosed 11 victims have been referred to the cemetery — five were buried Sunday while the remaining six were kept in the fridge while waiting for the relatives to set dates for the burial.  He went on to say the officials are keen on easing burial procedures to alleviate the pain of the victims’ relatives.

On the other hand, Sulaibikhat cemetery was also full as several people came to pay their final respects to three of the victims. After Asr prayer, the victims’ relatives performed funeral prayers before putting the bodies of their loved ones into the final resting place.

One of the victims’ relatives appealed to the authorities to check on the safety and security measures implemented in tents. He called on the concerned officials to take decisive steps to secure tents and prevent the recurrence of the tragic incident in the future.

Another relative stressed the need to increase public awareness on how to behave during emergency situations as the number of victims in the recent fire incident increased remarkably due to the stampede.

Meanwhile, one more relative lauded the securitymen, medical emergency personnel, firefighters, rescue officers, and Ministry of Health (MoH) staff for the vital role they played during and after the incident.

Lawmakers also mourned the Jahra fire victims.

“This is undoubtedly a tragedy,” said Acting Parliament Speaker Abdullah Al-Roumi after he visited some of the injured in different hospitals Sunday. “We pray that such a tragic incident will never happen again. We are extremely sorry for the victims’ families and we ask Allah, the Almighty, to give them strength to endure the pain,” he lamented.

When asked who will be held liable for this tragedy, Al-Roumi pointed out “it is quite early to identify who is responsible for this incident. The concerned authorities are still investigating to determine the actual cause of fire.”

Dr Jamaan Al-Harbash urged the government to declare a period of mourning, in collaboration with the families of the deceased, and described the incident as “the worst and bloodiest in Kuwait’s history.” 

Calling for comprehensive investigations to determine the actual circumstances leading to the fire, Al-Harbash suggested investigations should start with Kuwait Municipality’s failure to ensure strict implementation of safety procedures in the tent, as well as the government’s response to the emergency, through its ministries and authorities. He also asked Minister of Social Affairs and Labor Dr Mohammad Al-Afasi to push for the construction of ballrooms, specifically for women celebrating various occasions.

MP Saleh Ashour extended his condolences to the people of Kuwait, especially the families of those who died in the tragic fire incident.

Ashour asked the government to issue a statement on the circumstances leading to the incident before the emergency parliamentary session on Aug 19. He said the statement must include measures taken after the fire, as well as the level of preparedness of the fire service centers, paramedics and hospitals in dealing with emergency situations.

Contending this is not the first time that fire caused the death of many citizens, Ashour stressed the need for Kuwait Fire Service Directorate (KFSD) to be tough in issuing safety and security licenses for the establishment of tents for weddings and other occasions to prevent loss of human lives in the future.

MP Abdulrahman Al-Anjari admitted he was shocked after hearing the news about the fire, which caused the death of a large number of women. “This is a huge and sad loss not only for the families of the victims, but also the whole country. Kuwait Municipality and other concerned authorities should have learned from the fatal fire incident in Jahra last year, especially since some bylaws have not been activated to ensure the safety of the people during wedding celebrations and other public occasions,” he opined.

MP Dr Aseel Al-Awadhi also expressed her condolences to the victims’ families, indicating “the best we can do is to stand behind these families and give them all the support they need, in addition to proper medical and psychological care to the injured.’ She also underscored the need to conduct thorough investigations to identify flaws in the existing safety and security measures that led to the disaster.

MP Dr Daifallah Bouramiya declared the Jahra fire incident has revealed the government’s inability to deal with emergency situations. “We had repeatedly warned the government against its lax attitude towards emergency cases. It had earlier confirmed its readiness to face any emergency situation, including the possible bombing of the Iranian nuclear reactor, yet it has failed to take the necessary steps to prevent this tragic incident.  This only shows that the government’s announcement is nothing but propaganda,” he added.

Bouramiya asserted the government has failed to address even the simplest issues, such as the media coverage of the fire incident. He said citizens are getting updates from other television channels like Al-Rai, Al-Watan, Al-Jazeera and Al-Arabiya, while Kuwait TV was busy airing music and comedy series as if the country is not affected by the incident, which resulted in the death of more than 40 people.

In a related development, the Popular Labor Bloc criticized the state-owned media institutions for their substandard coverage of the fire and failure to efficiently handle the disaster.

In press a statement, the bloc said “national media should have played an essential role in responding to people’s queries, comforting the victims’ families, updating information about the victims.” 




Scores die in Kuwait wedding fire

 

At least 41 people, all women and children, have died after a fire broke out in a tent being used at a wedding in Kuwait City.

At least 50 other people are believed to have been injured in Saturday's incident in Jahra, west of the Kuwaiti capital, Saad al-Enezi, Al Jazeera's correspondent in Kuwait, said.

"Many of them are in a very, very serious condition," al-Enezi said.

"The rescue operation has finished now - everyone is either in hospital or the morgue."

Stampede

It is thought that the death toll will rise due to a stampede as relatives and onlookers flooded the scene during the fire, which took less than two minutes to engulf the tent.

"The tent did not have any emergency exit"

Saad al-Enezi, Al Jazeera's correspondent

Al-Enezi said that candles may have ignited the tent, leading to the country's biggest such disaster in 40 years.

The authorities said they were investigating the cause of the blaze.

"The tent, in an enclosed surrounding, did not have any emergency exit and it was made from a very flammable material - cotton," al-Enezi said.

Fire officials told Al Jazeera that the tent had probably not been constructed to correct safety standards.

In Kuwait, wedding celebrations are held separately for men and women, with children attending the women's party.





16 aug 09 @ 12:33 pm amst          Comments

Friday, August 14, 2009

Future Plans

Life has in Kuwait has really evened out a bit. I've been spending time with amazing people who are truly genuine and honest. Which is quite refreshing I must say. However, I find I am still in desperate need of a change. It's as if my entire focus has shifted from 'right now' to 'next year' and where I plan to be at that time. Doing what I need to do today to make sure I am where I need to be in a year. This mindset prevents me from allowing my roots to get any deeper here. Some refer to me as being distant and stand-off'ish, I refer to it as being a realist.

Almost every day I get this glimpse of the home I'm having built in the states -- more the location than the actual house. It's exactly .6 miles (notice the . before the 6 please) to my favorite little AnselAdams.jpgcoffee shoppe which offers a quaint, friendly, home like feel. If it had a fireplace for winter time use, it would be perfection. Though even without the fireplace it's this amazing little place. Built right in the middle of a historic district of upper middle class residents. The thought of waking up on a cool crisp Autumn morning and walking to get my coffee brings me such a great sense of peace. I envision the leaves changing, the breeze blowing, and the neighborhood children waiting at their bus stops. I suppose in some ways my life (in the states) is similar to an Ansel Adams photograph -- nothing spectacular... just elegant simplicity. Exactly the way I like it.

Kuwait will always have a special place in my heart -- with its complex simplicities. The things that could really be so simple are made to be so very difficult here. And the things which generally require thought and emotion are just acted on with great impulse here... not thought at all. Though adjusting to it comes easily -- becoming it will never be. I believe strongly in ethics, empathy, and sympathy and I miss these things when I'm in Kuwait -- as they are few and far between here.

Please know this is not an insult to Kuwait. Many people who read my blog lately seem to think I hate it here which isn't the case at all. Unfortunately, when you see the same thing happening over and over again and realize it's not a positive thing, you get a little frustrated. Yes, I could turn my head and look the other way. But this isn't who I was raised to be. I am a strong woman with a voice. It's difficult to pretend. Sure -- we certainly have our share of negativity in America too. But we also have the option to surround ourselves with positive people, white hearts, and general kindness. In Kuwait your friends are your family, your family are your friends, and then you have a select few from the 'outside'. Choices here are limited to what's imposed on you by family and society. Futures are planned, and minds are changed based on what someone else might want for you. Decisions, made solely on your own, are limited here to what's acceptable by everyone around you. This type of behavior makes for a land of 'cookie cutter' people. They all want to be different, but none know how to actually break out and do it. And if they do, they're 'shamed.'

America -- we really are the land of the free.
14 aug 09 @ 11:57 am amst          Comments

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

So close they ARE neighbors.

SIX KUWAITIS IN ‘QAEDA’ CELL CONFESS TO RAMADAN PLOT; Kuwait foils terror attack on Arifjan

KUWAIT CITY, Aug 11, (Agencies): Kuwait said on Tuesday it had foiled an al-Qaeda-linked plan to bomb a US Army camp and other “important facilities” in the country. An Interior Ministry members of the al-Qaeda-linked cell had confessed after being arrested. It did not say if the targeted facilities included oil industry plants in Kuwait, the world’s fourth-largest oil exporter. “The state security has uncovered a terrorist network following al-Qaeda, and includes six (Kuwaiti) citizens who have planned to carry out a plan to bomb Arifjan Camp, the state security building and other important facilities,” the ministry said. Camp Arifjan is located south of Kuwait City and serves as a staging ground for forces deploying in Iraq. Kuwait, the launch pad for the 2003 US-led war on Iraq which ousted Iraqi leader Saddam Hussein, remains a logistics base for the US Army to support its troops in Iraq. The planned withdrawal of US troops from Iraq has not discouraged al-Qaeda from planning attacks on US-allied Arab countries, including Kuwait, political analyst Shafiq Ghabra said.

“Their issue is not the withdrawal of the US (troops), it’s also their ... regime, the existing elite, the existing ruling families,” he said.
Al-Qaeda is now struggling to show they exist after setbacks in Iraq and Pakistan, Ghabra added. “They are trying to hit wherever they feel there is a weakness.”  After the Sept 11, 2001 attacks on US cities, there were a number of al-Qaeda-inspired attacks in Kuwait, including a raid that killed one US Marine and wounded another in October 2002. The government has since waged a largely successful campaign to stamp out violence by Islamist militants.  Al Qaeda’s wing in Yemen named a new leader earlier this year and said the group would expand the scope of its attacks to all Gulf Arab states, including top world oil exporter Saudi Arabia.  Dubai-based Al-Arabiya television said the attack was planned to be carried out during the Muslim holy month of Ramadan, which starts on around Aug 20.

In 2007, a Kuwaiti court commuted death sentences against four members of the Peninsula Lions Brigades, a militant outfit affiliated with Al-Qaeda, to life in prison over those gunbattles that killed four policemen and eight militants, including two Saudis.
The latest Qaeda plot was revealed just days after a visit to Washington by HH the  Amir Sheikh Sabah Al-Ahmed Al-Sabah, who met US President Barack Obama at the White House on August 3.
Obama visited Camp Arifjan in July 2008, before becoming president the following January, after his predecessor George W. Bush made a trip there in January last year. It is the largest US base in the country, where there are smaller camps scattered across the desert.

The statement did not provide any details. However, Kuwait’s Al Rai daily quoted anonymous security sources on Tuesday saying that the group had confessed to buying a truck which it intended to load with fertilizer, chemicals and gas cylinders and ram it into the camp. It was unlikely the attack on the vast American logistics and supply facility in the desert south of the Kuwaiti capital would have been successful due to high security. Camp Arifjan will likely be an essential hub for withdrawing American troops from Iraq. A Baghdad-Washington agreement calls for US combat troops to withdraw by August 2010, leaving behind a residual force of 35,000-50,000 troops to train and advise the Iraqi security forces until a final pullout by the end of 2011. Earlier, security sources were reported to identified four of the six suspects as A.Q, A.K, Y.K and KH.K. However, sources differed on the timings of the attacks with Al Rai stating that the attacks were planned to be carried out next week, while Al Jarida said the strikes were planned for Ramadan.

Meanwhile, Lt Col Margaret Brooks, Public Affairs Officer at Camp Arifjan, told the Arab Times that the camp is aware of the foiled terror attack from the local newspapers. “Kuwaiti army takes security issues very seriously, and we are closely coordinating with them.” A source revealed that the members of the cell admitted to targeting some sensitive locations in the country. “One of the suspects, A.Q, was under the surveillance of the state security and arrested for interrogation. “During interrogations, A.Q provided securitymen with information on his partners, including KH.K, who were involved in the planning of the terrorist attack that targeted US troops on Failaka Island on Oct 9, 2002.  “The suspects admitted to planning attacks on Camp Arifjan and some important locations in Kuwait, in addition to their training to plant and detonate explosives. They also admitted to possessing automatic rifles and revolvers which were hidden in a secret location. “The police raided farms, chalets and houses used by the suspects and seized maps and sketches of places targeted for attacks.” Al-Jarida Daily mentioned that security authorities received information from their Bahraini counterparts about terror cells in Bahrain and Kuwait being in contact with each other.

12 aug 09 @ 12:52 pm amst          Comments

Sunday, August 9, 2009

Ugly Truths vs. Pretty Lies


I suppose it's self explanatory.

At what point does a person have the right to lie to us in an attempt to 'protect' us? And in reality, if they're lying to us, aren't they the ones we need protecting from?

In my 'house cleaning' efforts, this is one of the things I have seriously evaluated. Honesty.

It's all so simple to me -- truth. I will always prefer the truth, Poof.jpgregardless of how horrible it may seem. It allows me to make decisions based on fact, and reality. Lies in an attempt to protect someone are still just lies. There's no justification, no matter how appealing one tries to make it. A lie is a lie. Period.

In Kuwait many people say, "Sometimes we just don't tell a person something so they don't have to be hurt and bother themselves."

In America this is also referred to as, "What they don't know won't hurt them."

In reality it's known as, "Having my cake and eating it too."

People lie for one reason and one reason only -- to hide something. There's no such thing as lying to protect someone, or lying to prevent another person from being bothered. The lie is essentially to protect yourself, and prevent yourself from being bothered. Call it what you want, but facts are facts. Truth is truth.

Recently a dear friend lied to me. Not about anything overly important, and certainly not about anything that couldn't have been presented honestly. As friends we owe that to one another -- truth. However, this friend feared they would lose me if I knew the truth about them. In the end they lost me not because of their big secret, but because of their big lie.

Someone very close to me often says, "Sometimes what you say is worse than what you do." Truer words have never been spoken. Unfortunately I don't know it in Arabic, but it translates well.

In the end, the lie destroys everything. It removes the ability to trust, or to ever accept this person as a friend again. Sure, as friends we have a duty to look out for one another, and to care for each other's feelings... but more importantly, to always be honest. This is the foundation of a friendship.

The actions of my friend were silly, and easily forgiven. The lie is unacceptable and never forgotten. Unfortunately, this is the point my friend keeps missing -- blaming me for being the one to give up the friendship. Well, yes, I suppose it is me who is walking away. However, it's about protecting myself -- as I am the only person with the right to do this.

Real friends don't lie. Best friends share everything. Pseudo friends are a dime a dozen.

Still cleaning house.

Poof! Or as I like to say -- pewf!

9 aug 09 @ 7:01 pm amst          Comments

Saturday, August 8, 2009

Interchanging of Genetic Make Up

They'll 'get it.'

So, there's these two guys I know in a very strange kinda way -- but who have both, in an equally strange kinda way, penetrated my heart. I see them as very dear people, both being Arab Americans -- though neither taking too much pride in the 'Arab' portion of that definition.

These men are perhaps as different as two men can be, yet share a very common bond -- they're both kaffirs, or at least claim to be. Personally, I see them as misguided Muslims who will eventually find their way back to what they know in their heart is right. Oh, and they both share a love for gambling. Wait, maybe I am mistaken about this Muslim thing. Hmm. Well, then of course there's the undying love for me. OK, so maybe these men aren't quite so different after all. And if I didn't know better, might assume they're one in the same.

However, one owns a lucrative bar in Hawaii (that's Hawaii -- a state in America. Not Hawalli, the hell in Kuwait). And the other is a habitual gambler who clearly does rather well since he seems to acquire new BMWs more often than I acquire new shoes. OK, almost. I believe the bar owner has contemplated moving in with the gambler, starting an intimate relationship, and following in his BMW driving, poker playing footsteps. OK, they'll 'get that' too.

In the end, the agreement was I would write about them here. And other than saying they're both genuine, funny, caring, adorable, and wonderful people -- I'm speechless.

I suggest the gambler and I take a trip to Hawaii on my next vacation to the states!
8 aug 09 @ 9:39 pm amst          Comments

Answers to Emails...

Sorry I haven't taken the time to reply to many emails lately. I've been selfish and self absorbed.

A couple of emails I received were rather interesting and allow me the opportunity to share some information which others might find helpful.

Q. Can a female US Contractor sponsor her child in Kuwait?
A. YES! Women can sponsor their children here in Kuwait for the time your Visa 18 is valid. The cost is fairly minimal, but there is a lot of paperwork. Also, if you're a single mother, you'll have to have written approval from the father prior to moving the child to Kuwait with you. Regardless of custody status. Also, American schools in Kuwait are expensive. Upwards of $12,000 a year and more. Keep in mind also, as a contractor you'll more than likely be working many hours and you'll need to hire a maid/nanny to live in your home and care for your child. This is also very inexpensive, but you'll need to ensure you have someone you can trust with your child. Most people hire their nanny/maids from another expat leaving Kuwait, and they come with a great recommendation. You will also have to sponsor this person, and pay her salary of approximately 60KD a month, food, housing, etc.

If all of this seems like too much, and you're just not interested in bothering with so much 'red tape', you can always opt for the 90 days in/90 days out routine. Have your child enter Kuwait on a 90 day visit visa, and then take your child on a mini vacation every 90 days and allow them to get stamped back in upon arrival. In the long run this could work out to be less expensive, and a good way to visit many fairly local countries in the Middle East. Most schools will still enroll a child on a visit visa.

Q. Can Kuwaiti Military men marry American woman?
A. Yes! However, it is my understanding they need to have written approval from the Kuwait government allowing this to take place. I've never really checked into it, so I am unsure of the details. But since this isn't the first time I've been asked this question, I believe I will take the time to investigate.
Though prior to marrying anyone, from any country, you should always consider the different cultures. Kuwait, though a tiny little country, has very deep rooted cultures which we don't have in America. Sure, we have customs, and traditions, but we rarely have culture, as we've all migrated to America from somewhere else at some point in time. Before marrying someone from Kuwait, please take the time to learn his culture, understand the difference between bedu and hather, seek out the meaning of the word 'respect' and study it until it's the only word you remember. And if you're a Kuwaiti man looking to marry an American woman, remember -- majnoooooonaaaaa! We're all majnooooonnnaaaa! See how easy?

Q. What is a dishdasha?
A. I'm surprised I've never defined this in detail since it's one of my favorite things about Kuwait. Dishdasha is the long white 'dress' men wear which is considered to be traditional Kuwaiti attire. Other Gulf countries dress very similar. In the summer the dishdasha is white, or any shade of off-white, eggshell, or sugar. But always in the color scheme of white. In the winter men start to wear darker colors. Generally starting with deep beige and tan colors, to the greys, and then right into the blacks in the colder days. Yes...days. We don't get cold 'weeks' or 'months' here in Kuwait. We get DAYS! Ugh. Men are not naked under their dishdashas, so please don't write to me asking. They are clad comfortably in body cooling cotton clothing underneath. Long pants, t-shirts, underwear, etc. In the winter, depending on how cold, they will generally add thermals, as well button up shirt worn under the dishdasha. Always in matching colors, and preferably with cuff links. OK, now we're just getting into my personal taste. Sorry.

Finally, for those of you (and you know who you are) sending your hate filled diatribes fueled by jealousy -- get over it already. Seriously. Is growing up on your list of things to do this lifetime?
8 aug 09 @ 12:55 pm amst          Comments

Thursday, August 6, 2009

"New Rules"

Not really so 'new' at all. I was borrowing that from Bill Maher who, in my opinion, is an absolute genius. And perhaps the perfect man for me. Funny, brilliant, liberal, and speaks his mind without fear or hesitation. Sounds about right -- the male version of me. Sans the brilliant part. OK, semi-brilliant.

Weekend in Kuwait -- cleaning house. Not quite so literally.

With all the recent changes in my life, as well as some upcoming changes, I have decided to implement some things that are very important to me. And always have been. However, I have been guilty of the lowering of standards I mentioned the other day. Allowing people in who just didn't deserve to be here.

This is where the not so new rules apply...

Khalas. No more.

We have a saying in America -- fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. This shall be my daily mantra until my house is clean.

Time is going to pass regardless of what we're doing with it. That being said, why choose to spend it being unproductive, or unhappy? Why spend it allowing people in who proved they're not worthy of being here? Even for one additional moment? Yes, maybe it appears to be cold and cruel to just cut people off as if they never existed. But if these people have only proven time and again to be dishonest and unworthy, why stick around? In my world, it's as easy as a text message saying, "Do not contact me again" and calling it a day. I don't live my life in reverse, and I don't look back.

"Advancing is perfection."

Will they ever be allowed back in? Not a chance.

I am a firm believer in trust. This is the foundation for all friendships, relationships, etc. I've mentioned this before. I give 100% trust when I first meet someone -- it's up to them to keep it or slowly tear it away. Sometimes not so slowly. Either way, the standards are only going to be reduced up to a certain point before the trust is gone... completely. At that point the foundation no longer exists. There's nothing to look back on, or wonder about. I mean, how can you?

Yes, this behavior leaves me with a small circle of friends. But rest assured, they are true friends. And not in name only. I am much happier with a limited number of real friends than a larger number of those you have to wonder about.

That being said -- house cleaning has commenced. Only the worthy and honest will remain. And perhaps some of my friends will clean house as well -- and decide I am not worthy. If this is the case, I will take a long, hard, real look at myself and determine what it is I've done wrong so I may fix it.

Again, "Advancing is perfection".

Another time, another space
Mark my words, I can't fake another day of sadness
My heart's been taken whole
And this dream is getting old
Yet I'm searching every part of me, baby

The tables' turned, that's for sure
Guilt and honor have crossed into what's left for holding on
You know things are getting hard
When we see them as they are
Can these qualities remain the same?

I've been contemplating
Keeping it complicated
For when you wanna turn the day in
And I just wanna turn the day around
I know it hurts a lot
But I gave what I got
Now I'll be getting on my way


6 aug 09 @ 10:54 pm amst          Comments

Groundbreaking has begun!

After weeks of waiting for permits, I finally got word last night that groundbreaking has begun on the house. I made a few exterior changes which required additional permits, but it seems they came through without a problem, and we're now into the foundation pouring process. Unfortunately, I don't get to be there to watch it all come together, but I am thrilled my family gets to watch. Both the builder, and my family will provide me with pictures every step of the way.

Because of the delay in groundbreaking, it seems as though closing could possibly be pushed back a few weeks. This could pose a slight problem, as I have my vacation planned already. But, since I haven't purchased my airlines ticket, it's nothing that can't be modified.

Though my home is already tastefully decorated (from all over the world), I have decided to do my bedroom in something grand. I suppose I am slightly 'grand' myself, and my tastes vary depending on the room I'm in and the country I am currently located -- but my master bedroom is huge. It deserves something amazing. I did have a bed made here in Kuwait, but it was simply to meet the current need... it's not 'grand', but I do love it. I'll definitely keep it, but not for use in my bedroom.
As a woman, I have always had the dream of the enormous master bedroom with a walk-in closet the size of an average kitchen. I'm getting that. It will be my personal room of serenity. Every detail will define me. This will be the room that gets the most attention when decorating. Might as well be since it really is all about me!
6 aug 09 @ 3:08 pm amst          Comments

Monday, August 3, 2009

Remy Shand = My Serenity

Yeah, I know, we've all heard about my love for music, talent, etc. Blah blah. Read it again -- or not!

A friend of mine in the states, who I met in Kuwait several years ago recently reminded me of a great talent... Remy Shand. I absolutely love music -- doesn't necessarily matter the genre (other than Country, ew ew). However, talent is vital. I can't just listen to screaming as loud as someone can and pretend it's talent -- it's not. No idea how some people have reached their current level of fame considering their lack of talent. Oh well.

Remy, on the other hand, is just a super talented guy. He truly tells a story with his music and lyrics. I can envision what he's saying, as if I am watching it on a big screen. My current favorite song by him is "Burning Bridges", but I enjoy them all. serenity.jpgUnfortunately, I have found he copyrights and protects his music rather well. 'Borrowing' too many of his songs and downloading them to an IPod doesn't come as easily as I had hoped. But I refuse to give up -- I know they're available, and I might just resort to paying for them like the ethical woman I am.

Speaking of IPods... wtf? Am I the last person on earth to acquire one? OK, to be honest, I am not very technology savvy, and never desired to be. I figure there's always someone else out there who's much brighter than me in these areas, and I can hire them. Makes perfect sense to me. But, something tells me asking the computer technician guy how much he charges to put music on an IPod I am going to get a really strange look. One that easily translates to, "Are you a complete idiot?" In which case my response would be, "Well, um, yes, perhaps I am!" Don't misunderstand me -- I have no doubt, in time, I will master this skill as well. For now I am still just kinda fumbling through it all, slowly seeing the IPod ending up in the drawer next to the DVRs I purchased to burn music to. Ugh! Yeah... I know.

I recall when I was younger (much), we had albums. Remember those vinyl things you put on a turntable and played using a needle? We rapidly moved right into CDs (makes me seem younger, let's go with this). However, the sound of an album being played compares to nothing, as it was perfection. The scratches and all. Even now some performers attempt to reproduce the LP sound on their digitally recorded tracks -- I ain't buying it!

Speaking of albums... I miss the simplicity of life. What's the purpose of all this high tech stuff? Yeah, I understand and support advancement -- positive and productive advancement. But what about all the things that are created and fail miserably? Why are we all in such a big hurry to make the 'next best thing'? Let's slow down, enjoy the moment, and stop attempting to change everything to something better all the time. I remember when I purchased my Nokia E61 a few years ago, Desert.jpgthree to be exact. I loved my phone, I used all the functions, and it met my needs. I still use this phone to this day. Yes, it's been upgraded 2 times in Kuwait, and 3 in America... but I still have my old one. Not because I am afraid of advancing, but because I believe if something is exactly what we need, and we love it, why bother ourselves with something new? Shoes being the exclusion.

Wasn't this supposed to be about Remy Shand? Eh, who am I kidding? It's always about me. After all, that's the purpose of this blog.

Oh yeah, so Remy -- he's my gym buddy. I've started investing 2-3 hours a day to my gym. Not all at once, I am not practicing for a triathlon! But before the office, after the office, and before bed. The fact I have 2-3 hours in a day to invest in the gym is probably a pretty good indication I don't have much of a life. However, with the recent 'discombobulation' taking place in my life, I find I am rather exhausted... or bored.

Kuwait has become this very little mundane place for me. I thought it was that I needed a vacation, but I just returned from one. The 'King' suggested we head to Dubai or Bahrain for the weekend, but even that doesn't seem far enough away. For years I spent my every day and/or evening out. Doing things. Seeing Kuwait. Learning new things. And enjoying the culture. But the past couple of months have been spent inside, wondering, pondering, and not learning much of anything... except that I love Remy. Perhaps I needed a break from the constant 'going', and I have definitely put fewer kilometers on the SUV, but I kinda miss Kuwait the way I knew it. I suppose I'll find it again one day.

The view from where I live is breath taking. So I just looked out the window to see what's going on out there -- as if I am missing something. Seems I'm missing nothing at all. I can't see the desert from where I live... only the sea. And this time of year, the desert is lonely. Quiet. And abandoned. Maybe it's the winter I am missing. Nothing is quite as amazing as Kuwaiti deserts in the winter. The dead silence, smell of fahem and shisha, and cold weather blowing through the tent at noon.

I'm sure a day will come when I look back and really miss Kuwait -- today isn't that day.


3 aug 09 @ 11:23 pm amst          Comments

Sunday, August 2, 2009

Kharouf la3oob


The sheep are only controlled by the donkey. Unfortunate fact, but true.


2 aug 09 @ 7:41 pm amst          Comments


"The sheep is always the only one who doesn't know they've been made a fool of. Everyone else sees the sheep clearly for what they are -- a sheep."

I see them.


2 aug 09 @ 1:30 pm amst          Comments

Blah discombobulation has left the building...

Recently, as I mentioned here, I had been feeling a little blah and discombobulated. Out of sorts so to speak, but unable to put my finger on exactly why. This is the most frustrating part, as I like to have the ability to control all moods of blahness.

I believe I discovered the answer.

Someone who was very close to me (the closest ever in Kuwait) and I had placed distance between us. I wouldn't call it a 'falling out' or any kind of fight per se, just distance. The level of respect and adoration was still there -- I never had ill feelings towards this person, would have never said a bad word about them, and continued to respect them as much, if not more than the day I met them 3 years ago. I know they felt the same about me. Even during this period of distance, at any time, either of us could have picked up the phone and the other would have been there without hesitation. It's a sense of security one rarely finds in life -- someone who is there regardless. Someone who supports, encourages, and adores you -- regardless. He was this person to me. I've discussed him many times here, but never given him a nickname, as nothing other than 'King' would have been fitting enough. This person taught me things about respect, honesty, and loyalty that I had never learned in my decade or two of being alive. He taught me that words have value, and when you say something, you mean it, and you do it. Otherwise -- you don't say it. I hope this explains why the respect for him is so high. He really is a 'do what you say' kinda guy.

Several days ago this person returned to Kuwait from vacation. Though he called me while out of the country my mind was just in other places, and I said two sentence and hung up. My childish behavior has never been appealing, or tolerated by him so I expected that to be the last conversation. But it wasn't. He called me within an hour of getting off the plane. This time I was still non-communicative, and had little interest in listening. But there's something about his words, and the fact they're so pure and honest -- even when they're not what you want to hear. We talked -- for hours. Things started to feel right in my world again.

Yesterday this person and I planned to revisit our old routine and spend some time together. We did our lunch at Mais Alghanim, shopped for a few things for my apartment, hung out for a while talking about so many things important to us both, and then agreed we would spend the following weekend together. Like we used to -- every weekend. I live right across the street from the beach, so we would generally walk out the door, cross the street, then walk for a while before sitting on the beach -- sometimes until the sun came up. His presence brings a sense of calm into my life. He's genuinely concerned with how I feel, how my day was, how my family is doing, and how my friends are. I speak, he listens contently and with interest. I've never felt as though my words weren't important to this person -- and I've never found someone to care so much about how I feel than him.

My feelings of 'blah' came from the fact I had lost that person who gave me such great security, and who brought me such a positive sense of self. I can't imagine ever making such a tragic mistake as to allow someone this valuable out of my life again. Rarely do we encounter people who not only see us for who we are inside, but cherishes it as if we're the most valuable woman alive. And rarely do we find someone who, with kindness, guides us when we need guiding.

In my world, he will always be a 'King'.
2 aug 09 @ 11:44 am amst          Comments

Saturday, August 1, 2009

Enta majnoon!

What on earth is going on with the people I know in Kuwait lately?! Is everyone totally insane? Could it be the weather? The sand storms? Something in the water?

This is yet another crazy man story -- and yet another strange way of Kuwait.

I'm sure I've mentioned before (a trillion times or so) the difference between American relationships and Kuwait relationships -- nothing to really compare there. Now, if you're Muslim and reading this, please don't contact me discussing Islam, dating, etc. I am fully aware of the Quran and the Sunnah. However, though dating is haram, men and women sitting together is not. So let's not even go there with me.

Back to the story!

A friend of mine (male) tells me several days ago about an old girlfriend who has come back into his life. He mentions a bit about their prior relationship, and had even told me about her a couple of times before. When I asked why they broke up initially (in an attempt to get some insight, and give him proper advice if that's what he was seeking) he said, "Well, we never really did, she just got sick." Huh? It seems they were together for about a year, seeing one another every now and then, and spending time alone perhaps 2-3 times. Otherwise it was always in public places, or just talking on the phone. Also very common here -- telephone relationships. So he goes on to tell me this woman just stopped answering her phone as often at some point because she was so 'sick' and unable to talk. She was in and out of hospitals, going to and from Dubai, Bahrain, Qatar, etc. for medical care -- and on and on. Keep in mind, none of this can be confirmed by him because he could never know her family, speak to them, or go visit her in the hospital. This would be a shame to her. As it is she's 28, divorced, and has no kids. Having a strange man hanging around or calling the family would be the nail in her coffin. Literally.

About a week or two ago (a year after their non-break up generated by extreme yet unconfirmed illness) she calls him out of the blue. It seems she's dying, has cancer even, and cries begging him for forgiveness for anything she might have done wrong. Of course this tugs on his heart strings, added with the fact she's now 'dying', and he's sucked in. But wait -- she's going to London to get her medical treatment, as Kuwait just can't treat her cancer... it's so severe, and she's near death.

A week passes... she calls him again. Tada! She's miraculously healed, back in Kuwait, no sign of cancer, nor was there ever! Masha'Allah! Seems she just had a stomach condition which doesn't have a name, or a medical term to explain it. Uh, yeah, right.

Either way, they're back together. She makes him happy and this is a good thing, so I wouldn't dare give him my opinion on this whole fraud.

So, I mention this to yet another friend of mine today (male) -- because it all just sounds a bit fishy to me. However, being American, being female... you know how we are. Skeptical. My friend bursts into laughter, and tells me this is the oldest trick in Kuwait. The "I'm sick, can't talk anymore" game. He seems to think she met someone else, didn't want to create problems or hurt anyone, so instead she toys with their emotions, keeping everyone hanging on and sympathizing with her. Maybe it's just me, but this sounds like outright cruelty. I asked my friend not to laugh, because the idea someone has done this to my other friend is very disturbing. How could someone just make up an illness, lie, and betray such a good person? Have they no heart?

Furthermore, my poor friend had once told me this woman was so good, and that other than her husband he was the only man she had ever talked to. Even during the year of her tragic illness -- she never talked to another man. I found this to be touching, and even allowed me to respect her though I had never met her. Then the day came that I did get to meet her. Oh my. Again I felt as though my friend had been duped. First of all, when I met her it was close to midnight -- and she was out of her home by herself. In Kuwait this is almost unheard of... and says a lot about the woman. Personally I don't think it's a big deal, but it seems I'm the only one. Furthermore, this woman was wearing tight clothes, hijab, and more makeup than Bozo the Clown. Glitter all over the face, yogurt cups under he hijab, etc. You get the picture. This woman, as good as I have been told she is, doesn't present herself this way at all. And believe me, presentation is pretty much everything in Kuwait. You wear your religion, personality, and income on your face here. It's just that simple. I was shocked when I met her -- as I was expecting someone who didn't try to bring attention to herself the way she did -- the way women do who have many boyfriends. This is when I really became skeptical of her 'on death's door story.'

Now -- I have a friend who I believe has been used, betrayed, lied to, and totally duped by a woman he felt was honest, geniune, sincere, and only cared for him. All while she was using his emotions to get her sympathy. What role do I play in this? If any? Do I have a duty to tell him what I believe has happened? Or will it just anger him that I would think a person could do something so horrible... especially her, the 'good' girl?

For now I think I'll sit back and pray my friend doesn't get hurt. He doesn't deserve to be. I don't really think anyone deserves to be.

But let me admit something -- though I think I am a fairly good person, a part of me is a little jealous! Why didn't I come up with the 'I'm dying from cancer' story when I wanted to dump someone?!? Cruel, but ingenious! I suggest we all start taking notes.


1 aug 09 @ 3:14 pm amst          Comments

Forgive the language...

"Kuss Men"

I'm sure it doesn't translate exactly the way it should, nor does it come across exactly the way it does in English -- but something tells me the message is clear.

Last night I stopped by a friend's house. He had been calling all day and I was unable to take his calls, so while out and about later that evening, I stopped by. This isn't really unusual, we are just friends, and we've always made clear we're welcome to stop by one another's place at anytime. However, last night his girlfriend was there. Whoops. She knows about me, though we have never met. But he assures me that he's told her of our friendship and she's fine with it. I have many friends who have girlfriends -- it's never been a problem before.

Long story short, this woman jumps into her car and speeds away. I was a little shocked by her level of immaturity, as I was a little excited by the idea of meeting her. However, as I was getting out of my car and said, "Hi", she jumped into her car and took off. OK, insecure much? The whole situation was far more drama than I was interested in. And I think I've made myself clear about the whining, feet stomping, childish women. I have little patience for that.

Moving on...

My friend is someone I have always respected, and seen as a great man. We've always had a close friendship, talk about any and everything, laugh, and discuss things that are important to both of us. We share a mutual respect and bond. I have never seen him in a negative light -- until last night.

Perhaps because I spend the majority of my time with bedu people in Kuwait, I have a different idea of how a man should behave, and what a man should do. I believe women are the crown on a man's head, but she earns this place. But once she's there, she's there. For those of you familiar with bedu and hather, you'll understand that. A man speaks, a woman listens. However, a real man, a good man -- will never ever guide her in the wrong direction. He will always keep her straight, and keep her as his equal by his side. She will never be disrespected, though she will never disrespect him either. It's a very secure and protective relationship that many Americans see as 'controlling.' When in reality it's not.

Back to my friend, who is hather by the way. Once the girlfriend jumps in the car and rudely speeds away he begins to frantically call her. Whaaaaat?!?! This woman has just behaved like a child, disrespected your friend, and most importantly, disrespect him as a man and he's burning off his fingertips calling her? Oh my. I was shocked. But, this is him I suppose and it wasn't my place to say anything. Perhaps he was a little scared of losing her and I certainly respect that. Well, it gets better (or worse). When she answers I can hear her screaming at him at the top of her lungs, so loudly he's having to pull the phone away from his ear and cringing at times. Again, oh my. What is his reaction to this? To speak to her in a calm voice? Hang up until she calms down and shows him respect? Keep in mind, he has done nothing wrong. Nothing. But, alas, neither of those were his reaction. Instead he starts to tell her in Arabic, "But I love you, I love you, I love you." OK, for anyone who has ever been to this side of the world, you'll know the 'I love you's' are thrown around like nothing. But to see my friend -- a man I respected, resort to desperation caused me to lose so much respect for him. It was almost as if I instantly saw him with different eyes. Once the whole childish drama was over I looked at him and tried to explain that I just had no respect for him, but I couldn't bring myself to say the words. I actually felt so bad that suddenly he was a 'kuss man'.

During all this not so manly like behavior, I did try to talk to the girlfriend, who wasn't very receptive. I did rush to leave in an attempt to allow him to talk to her and make things better. As a woman I know what it's like to hurt, and hurting another woman is certainly not on my list of things to do today. I just don't think any woman should feel pain. It was obvious my presence caused her pain, though it was certainly not my intention. I did ask him to apologize to her for me, and to explain to her if it makes her more comfortable, I will gladly give up my friendship with him to prevent her from any further pain. No idea what the outcome of that's going to be since she refused to speak to him at that time. I do hope one day (sooner than later) she realizes what she saw as something, wasn't that at all. I hope she understands her ideas were mistaken, and that she can forgive him for doing absolutely nothing wrong at all. Yeah, silly. Childish even.

Oh well, in the end I am still a bit thrown off by the kuss man. I am shocked even. How do I regain respect for this person? How do I once again convince myself he's a man who is worthy of respect? I feel a part of me will suddenly begin to scream at him every chance I get just because I know I can! Oh my -- not really, I could never. It's just not in me.

Ooooh, the dramas of Kuwait.
1 aug 09 @ 12:09 pm amst          Comments


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